which is easier - 1 kid or 2
I never had kids. I assumed that 1 kid would be a lot easier than 2,
but my sister told me that 2 can be easier since the kids can play with each other giving the adults a break. It seems that with 1 there would be less for the adults to keep track of, less multitasking. I can imagine 2 kids running in opposite directions. So which is generally easier? |
which is easier - 1 kid or 2
Big Crunch wrote:
I never had kids. I assumed that 1 kid would be a lot easier than 2, but my sister told me that 2 can be easier since the kids can play with each other giving the adults a break. It seems that with 1 there would be less for the adults to keep track of, less multitasking. I can imagine 2 kids running in opposite directions. So which is generally easier? In every family (except in the case of twins) where there are two children, there was at one time only one child. If there is only one child in the family, if another child hasn't died, then there has only been one child in the family. So the only people who can answer this question are people with two or more children. The answer is - it depends. If the two children are twins, they may indeed run in opposite directions. But if they are sequential children, usually they are not simultaneously of an age to run in opposite directions. Either one of them is too little to run (maybe not even crawling yet), or the other one is old enough not to do that. So it depends on the kids (how far apart in age they are, what temperament they are), and the parents (temperament). I found that two was very little more trouble than one, but that three was much more trouble than two, but others have different experiences. |
which is easier - 1 kid or 2
On Wed, 29 Nov 2006 21:27:07 EST, Big Crunch
wrote: I never had kids. I assumed that 1 kid would be a lot easier than 2, but my sister told me that 2 can be easier since the kids can play with each other giving the adults a break. It seems that with 1 there would be less for the adults to keep track of, less multitasking. I can imagine 2 kids running in opposite directions. So which is generally easier? The biggest complaint I hear from parents of only children is that the kids require so much from the parents. There is no other ready source of entertainment or socialization. The biggest issue I see working with only children is that they have to learn some of the social skills that will stand them in good stead with their peers when they are in school step by step instead of picking them up from dealing with other kids at home. You can ameliorate this by setting up lots of situations to hang out with other kids, but that is a ton of work. Play dates are a pain and they don't give all the same interaction and learning that living 24/7 does. I can't think of any kids off the top of my head that have referred themselves or been referred by teachers to counseling for severe social skills work who were not only children (or effectively so due to big age gaps between siblings) or suffered from autism or some other condition that would interfere. This doesn't mean that all kids with siblings have great social skills, but they do tend to learn more one way or another before they get to school. It's a sink or swim thing as well as an example and modeling thing. The biggest complaint I hear from parents of multiple children is about dealing with fighting siblings. Some of the social skills kids with siblings pick up are negative and you get to hear it all go down. As far as the kids go, most onlies are lonely for more peer interaction, IME, while most multiples want more attention, especially individual attention, from their parents. I have two daughters. I am really glad that there are two of them. They get into their squabbles sometimes, but they also entertain each other a lot and are great friends. I have had to put effort into teaching them how to deal with conflict and get along better, but I figure they need to know that to get along in the real world so I'd have to teach them regardless. I couldn't get the level of instant playmate, shared experience closeness and let me do my adult stuff with only one. It was hard on both my oldest child and myself that I could only stand so much toddler humor and watching the same video over and over again when she was an only. Then her sister came along and they still do that kind of stuff together with much giggling while I gratefully take care of things I need to do or want to do. It is easier for me to interact with them when I am not their sole source of interaction around the house. It has also been an amazing experience to watch two very different personalities develop before my eyes. It's fascinating to watch the Venn diagrams of their lives play out. We took a long road trip for Thanksgiving weekend and my younger daughter put it well. She told her sister that she actually kind of liked to go on boring car trips sometimes because the two of them had so much fun when they had to entertain each other or die of boredom. If either was an only child, I would have to entertain that child or hear all the whining about being bored. -- Paula "Anyway, other people are weird, but sometimes they have candy, so it's best to try to get along with them." Joe Bay |
which is easier - 1 kid or 2
Paula wrote:
The biggest complaint I hear from parents of only children is that the kids require so much from the parents. There is no other ready source of entertainment or socialization. The biggest issue I see working Thanks for the newsgroup response. I never had kids, so I thought 1 would be a lot easier, but not necessarily. If the 2nd kid were triplets, 1 might be easier. I'm leaning towards just being a wonderful uncle at this point :) I see what my grown siblings go thru. |
At home, 2 kids are easier as they can play with each other.(provided their age gap is not too far apart) That will free up a lot of our time.
When we bring them out, one is easier unless they are occupied with something to do. Otherwise, as you mentioned, you have to multitask and run in two directions. For more articles, go to www.raisingconfidentkids.com |
which is easier - 1 kid or 2
I personally have four children, and I found that two and MORE children
are actually easier. They have friends for life. Moreover, there are so many adult "only children" that are embittered, because of parents' selfishness in not giving them a sibling. I have heard complaints of loneliness, etc. ~d, Mother of four On Nov 29 2006, 7:27 pm, Big Crunch wrote: I never had kids. I assumed that 1 kid would be a lot easier than 2, but my sister told me that 2 can be easier since the kids can play with each other giving the adults a break. It seems that with 1 there would be less for the adults to keep track of, less multitasking. I can imagine 2 kids running in opposite directions. So which is generally easier? |
which is easier - 1 kid or 2
Hi -- I have two kids. Sometimes it's much easier, and more satisfying, to be with them one at a time. Other times it's much easier and more satisfying to be with them when they're together. My experience, with my own childhood, my children and my friends' children is that there's no "easier" with children. There are times that are easier and times that are more difficult. There are children (and families) that are easier and more difficult. If you're figuring out your own family planning based on what's "easier", then you might not be ready for a family. However, realistically you should consider that having multiple toddlers in the house means you really want multiple adults available much of the time. And having multiple teens in the house means you need a very large refrigerator. Beyond that? It depends. My two cents, --Beth Kevles http://web.mit.edu/kevles/www/nomilk.html -- a page for the milk-allergic Disclaimer: Nothing in this message should be construed as medical advice. Please consult with your own medical practicioner. NOTE: No email is read at my MIT address. Use the AOL one if you would like me to reply. |
which is easier - 1 kid or 2
I have twins, not that its easy but they do keep each other company!
Single children have the benefit of not having to share whereas w/ two you share many things for obvious reasons. Single children tend to become lonesome though if not introduced to play groups or other such surroundings w/ one on one play w/ other children. You have to watch out w/ single children moreso I would think to make sure too that they are not being overcompensated for not having a sibling to share w/ whereas they get everything thus becoming spoiled. Truly having two though, you have to watch out for this anyway. Hope this Helps! GeorgianMommy "Big Crunch" wrote in message ... I never had kids. I assumed that 1 kid would be a lot easier than 2, but my sister told me that 2 can be easier since the kids can play with each other giving the adults a break. It seems that with 1 there would be less for the adults to keep track of, less multitasking. I can imagine 2 kids running in opposite directions. So which is generally easier? |
Having children, in general is hard work. I never personally thought it was harder to have 2 children than it was to have just 1. Perhaps it's because I've been running around like a chicken with its head cut off and I don't notice how much more difficult it is. LOL.
Either way, if I were to look at it objectively, I guess it could be more difficult. It depends on how the children get along and if they just behave. The more difficult they are for you, the more difficult it is to raise them. |
I think 2 children are better
because if we have 1 so 1 will be bore and must he/she want their brother or sister |
2 children are necessary
it is best to have 2 children |
2 children is better choice they can understand eachother better way and can enjoy themselves
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i am agree that 2 children are best
because they will love to each other and also share to each others |
i am also agree that 2 children must have
they will share each other |
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I am a widowed single Dad and have been widowed for 8 years. My wife suddenly died and left 3 young children; 2, 5 and 12. It was crazy the 1st several years...dinner...work...preschool...etc... However, when the 2 youngest were 4 and 8, they began to play together. Later, they were able to play by themselves when I was nearby. To this day they are 12 and 10, and they play games together and DO GIVE ME A WONDERFUL BREAK! Experiencing them sharing things and activities together is awesome! They build a relationship that grows into the later years. It's a little crazy at first, but it's awesome later. How else would I be able to post here?! I think 2 for the price of one is best IMHO! |
i am also agree that 2 children must have
they will share each other |
I think 2 children are better
because if we have 1 so 1 will be bore and must he/she want their brother or sister. |
yes, 2 children are necessary cos they need company to play.or they disturb you again and again when you are busy.
but not more |
It is best to have 2 children
they share each other |
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2 children is better because they need company to play.
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yes ofcourse 2 kids are much better. i personaly have 3 kids. i say many thanks to God when i see them playng together. they feel very comfortable with each other. disturbe me a lot if left alone for any reason. i suggest you must give sibling to your child.
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