WHAT SPANKING DOES FOR KIDS
WHAT SPANKING DOES FOR KIDS
From Irwin A. Hyman, The Case Against Spanking: How to Discipline Your Child Without Hitting, (1997), pp. 58-62. Dr. Hyman is director of the National Center for Study of Corporal Punishment and Alternatives and professor of school psychology at Temple University. He has made numerous appearances on national television shows such as Oprah, Good Morning America, and the Today show. ... .... While the prospankers interpret the lack of research on the harmful effects of spanking with preschoolers as proof that it is OK, I disagree and maintain that there is no reason to ever hit a child. My summary of the research and the clinical experience of over 30 years follows: * Corporal punishment should not be used in schools, since there is convincing evidence that it is a significant contributing factor to emotional, legal and social problems. * Frequent and harsh spanking is consistently found to be present in the lives of boys who are aggressive and disobedient, who lie, cheat, are destructive with their own and others' belongings, and who associate with friends prone to delinquency. * Frequent and harsh spankings can cause young children to bottle up their feelings of fear, anger, and hostility. In later life these children are unusually prone to suicidal thoughts, suicide, and depression. * Despite the age or gender of the child, the family's social class or ethnicity, whether the child was hit frequently or rarely, severely or mildly, whether there were high or low levels of interaction and affection in the home, and regardless of the degree to which specific situational variables may have mitigated the effects of the punishment, spanking consistently contributes to lowered self-esteem. * In toddlers, many punitive approaches, including spanking, do not result in compliance, but end simply with the administration of punishment. (Studies show that preschoolers who are hit are more likely to be more impulsive and aggressive than those who are not spanked. Furthermore, toddlers can be taught, using behavioral techniques such as associating their word for pain with the street or electrical outlets, to avoid those dangerous situations. Childproofing the house and monitoring toddlers will avoid the so-called necessity of spanking to teach children to avoid danger.) * Children who are physically punished are more likely to grow up approving of it and using it to settle interpersonal conflicts. Even children who have experienced "normal" spankings are almost three times as likely to seriously assault a sibling, compared to children who were not physically disciplined. * Contrary to popular belief, studies of corporal punishment in schools indicate that it is not used as a last resort. In fact, it is too often the first punishment for nonviolent and minor misbehaviors. Beatings for minor misbehaviors can cause many stress symptoms in children. * Younger children are hit most often; spanking slowly decreases until late adolescence. This contributes to feelings of helplessness, and resentment that may lead to withdrawal or aggression toward caregivers. * Boys are hit much more frequently than girls, thereby sustaining sexual stereotypes. * In schools, minority and poor white children receive "lickings" four to five times more frequently than middle- and upper-class white children. This contributes to racism and classism in our society. * Regional comparisons show that the highest proportion of corporal punishment in America occurs in states of the South and Southwest. Florida, Arkansas and Alabama have consistently been among the leaders in the frequency of hitting schoolchildren. It is unreasonable and unfair that children's location should determine the degree to which they may be legally victimized. * Corporally punished schoolchildren, especially those with emotional and academic disabilities, have suffered all types of injuries including welts, hematomas, damage to almost all external and many internal body parts, and death. * Studies demonstrate that eliminating corporal punishment does not increase misbehavior in home or school. Systematic use of positive alternatives, however, has been shown to decrease misbehavior significantly. ... http://www.nospank.net/hyman2.htm |
WHAT SPANKING DOES FOR KIDS
So why do parents continually not only want their perceived "right" to
discipline by hitting, but also become so incredibly verbally abusive on this ng when challenged about their perceptions? Why would anyone want to hit children when disciplining, other than out of anger and and a need for revenge? I've heard arguments that parents know no alternatives. I don't buy the argument. I have known and worked with parents that learned to decrease and even eliminate all spanking as they gained information about the harmful effects of spanking. I've watched these parents form a closer bond with their children, and become more functional as a family. None of these families, even in the most dire of circumstances, had no alternatives other than hitting their children when they "disobeyed." They simply believed that spanking was necessary, or they acted out of anger and a need for power and revenge. LaVonne 0:- wrote: WHAT SPANKING DOES FOR KIDS From Irwin A. Hyman, The Case Against Spanking: How to Discipline Your Child Without Hitting, (1997), pp. 58-62. Dr. Hyman is director of the National Center for Study of Corporal Punishment and Alternatives and professor of school psychology at Temple University. He has made numerous appearances on national television shows such as Oprah, Good Morning America, and the Today show. ... ... While the prospankers interpret the lack of research on the harmful effects of spanking with preschoolers as proof that it is OK, I disagree and maintain that there is no reason to ever hit a child. My summary of the research and the clinical experience of over 30 years follows: * Corporal punishment should not be used in schools, since there is convincing evidence that it is a significant contributing factor to emotional, legal and social problems. * Frequent and harsh spanking is consistently found to be present in the lives of boys who are aggressive and disobedient, who lie, cheat, are destructive with their own and others' belongings, and who associate with friends prone to delinquency. * Frequent and harsh spankings can cause young children to bottle up their feelings of fear, anger, and hostility. In later life these children are unusually prone to suicidal thoughts, suicide, and depression. * Despite the age or gender of the child, the family's social class or ethnicity, whether the child was hit frequently or rarely, severely or mildly, whether there were high or low levels of interaction and affection in the home, and regardless of the degree to which specific situational variables may have mitigated the effects of the punishment, spanking consistently contributes to lowered self-esteem. * In toddlers, many punitive approaches, including spanking, do not result in compliance, but end simply with the administration of punishment. (Studies show that preschoolers who are hit are more likely to be more impulsive and aggressive than those who are not spanked. Furthermore, toddlers can be taught, using behavioral techniques such as associating their word for pain with the street or electrical outlets, to avoid those dangerous situations. Childproofing the house and monitoring toddlers will avoid the so-called necessity of spanking to teach children to avoid danger.) * Children who are physically punished are more likely to grow up approving of it and using it to settle interpersonal conflicts. Even children who have experienced "normal" spankings are almost three times as likely to seriously assault a sibling, compared to children who were not physically disciplined. * Contrary to popular belief, studies of corporal punishment in schools indicate that it is not used as a last resort. In fact, it is too often the first punishment for nonviolent and minor misbehaviors. Beatings for minor misbehaviors can cause many stress symptoms in children. * Younger children are hit most often; spanking slowly decreases until late adolescence. This contributes to feelings of helplessness, and resentment that may lead to withdrawal or aggression toward caregivers. * Boys are hit much more frequently than girls, thereby sustaining sexual stereotypes. * In schools, minority and poor white children receive "lickings" four to five times more frequently than middle- and upper-class white children. This contributes to racism and classism in our society. * Regional comparisons show that the highest proportion of corporal punishment in America occurs in states of the South and Southwest. Florida, Arkansas and Alabama have consistently been among the leaders in the frequency of hitting schoolchildren. It is unreasonable and unfair that children's location should determine the degree to which they may be legally victimized. * Corporally punished schoolchildren, especially those with emotional and academic disabilities, have suffered all types of injuries including welts, hematomas, damage to almost all external and many internal body parts, and death. * Studies demonstrate that eliminating corporal punishment does not increase misbehavior in home or school. Systematic use of positive alternatives, however, has been shown to decrease misbehavior significantly. ... http://www.nospank.net/hyman2.htm |
WHAT SPANKING DOES FOR KIDS
Carlson LaVonne wrote:
So why do parents continually not only want their perceived "right" to discipline by hitting, but also become so incredibly verbally abusive on this ng when challenged about their perceptions? Kane, AKA Donald L. Fisher of Oregon actually brags about the fact he posted OBSCENITY in the newsgroups for over an entire YEAR. |
WHAT SPANKING DOES FOR KIDS
Greegor wrote: Carlson LaVonne wrote: So why do parents continually not only want their perceived "right" to discipline by hitting, but also become so incredibly verbally abusive on this ng when challenged about their perceptions? Kane, AKA Donald L. Fisher of Oregon actually brags about the fact he posted OBSCENITY in the newsgroups for over an entire YEAR. LaVonne, did I ever use obscenity with you when, for the first two years here, I disagreed adamantly with your advocacy for a law against the use of CP? Greg, why claim that I posted obscenity (you have, by the way) without mentioning to whom and why? Afraid to discuss the support Fern gave to the "preacher" and his "rights" being violated, when that same preacher had already confessed to and been convicted for savagely beating a 17 year old girl for more than 20 minutes until she was bloody from the 'whipping' he gave her for sassing and "trying to take over the church?" The same preacher involved in the "suspend them and beat them with objects," case, the same one that urged his followers for their right to BEAT, that right, THE RIGHT TO BEAT, the children of church members? YOU never spoke up against this practice, Greg. Do you think possibly that when I address those that don't just advocate spanking, but in fact ADVOCATE BEATINGS that it might be more than appropriate to get their attention with some strong lanaguage? Are you such a panty you can't handle that? Everytime you bring it up it's very obvious you are using it as a dodge. Notice the question that LaVonne brings up? Are you incapable of arguing the topic? Thanks for your timely response, AH. By the way, you ever read any of Michael's posts to "Don?" How about Dennis' socks posts to Kane or Don? R R R R R RR RR Kinda got a double standard, don'tcha boy? But then that's pretty standard for the rabid child beating perverts, now isn't it? Kane 0:-] |
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