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Werebat May 12th 07 05:57 AM

Interesting Article on Custody
 
This is an old article from '93, and I'm afraid the ideas presented
didn't take. I do like this man's take on "Joint Legal Custody" though
-- truly a joke that will in time become a politically incorrect term as
soon as enough people figure out what it really means.

http://patriot.net/~crouch/flnc/nocus.html

- Ron ^*^


John Meyer[_2_] May 14th 07 03:51 AM

Interesting Article on Custody
 
Werebat wrote:
This is an old article from '93, and I'm afraid the ideas presented
didn't take. I do like this man's take on "Joint Legal Custody" though
-- truly a joke that will in time become a politically incorrect term as
soon as enough people figure out what it really means.


politically correct and incorrect to me are two terms that are
overused. I look at politically correct as something a politician
mouths just to get elected, whatever side of the aisle he sits on.
"Defending America's Borders", "Traditional Family Values", any one of a
thousand conservative cliches can be just as politically correct if the
politician is just saying them with no concept or ideas behind them.

Werebat May 14th 07 11:52 AM

Interesting Article on Custody
 


John Meyer wrote:

Werebat wrote:

This is an old article from '93, and I'm afraid the ideas presented
didn't take. I do like this man's take on "Joint Legal Custody" though
-- truly a joke that will in time become a politically incorrect term as
soon as enough people figure out what it really means.



politically correct and incorrect to me are two terms that are
overused. I look at politically correct as something a politician
mouths just to get elected, whatever side of the aisle he sits on.
"Defending America's Borders", "Traditional Family Values", any one of a
thousand conservative cliches can be just as politically correct if the
politician is just saying them with no concept or ideas behind them.


True enough, but "politically incorrect" almost always means something
that a public figure WON'T say if he wants to avoid scandalous ridicule
or outrage. Right now "joint legal custody" is used partly to mollify
the masses when fathers demand joint custody and might begin getting
public opinion on their side. It's nothing more than a smokescreen that
some official can throw up around the issue, smiling and saying, "but
this state ALREADY has joint legal custody as the norm..."

The author is saying that once enough people catch on to the
meaninglessness of the term, those same officials won't use it because
it will earmark them as equivocating weasels. And rightly so.

- Ron ^*^


John Meyer[_2_] May 14th 07 01:19 PM

Interesting Article on Custody
 
Werebat wrote:


John Meyer wrote:

Werebat wrote:

This is an old article from '93, and I'm afraid the ideas presented
didn't take. I do like this man's take on "Joint Legal Custody" though
-- truly a joke that will in time become a politically incorrect term as
soon as enough people figure out what it really means.



politically correct and incorrect to me are two terms that are
overused. I look at politically correct as something a politician
mouths just to get elected, whatever side of the aisle he sits on.
"Defending America's Borders", "Traditional Family Values", any one of a
thousand conservative cliches can be just as politically correct if the
politician is just saying them with no concept or ideas behind them.


True enough, but "politically incorrect" almost always means something
that a public figure WON'T say if he wants to avoid scandalous ridicule
or outrage. Right now "joint legal custody" is used partly to mollify
the masses when fathers demand joint custody and might begin getting
public opinion on their side. It's nothing more than a smokescreen that
some official can throw up around the issue, smiling and saying, "but
this state ALREADY has joint legal custody as the norm..."



Easy response there. "Look, I'm not applying to be the kid's LAWYER; I
want to be the kid's PARENT. Comprehend?"

Werebat May 14th 07 08:12 PM

Interesting Article on Custody
 


John Meyer wrote:

Werebat wrote:


John Meyer wrote:


Werebat wrote:


This is an old article from '93, and I'm afraid the ideas presented
didn't take. I do like this man's take on "Joint Legal Custody" though
-- truly a joke that will in time become a politically incorrect term as
soon as enough people figure out what it really means.



politically correct and incorrect to me are two terms that are
overused. I look at politically correct as something a politician
mouths just to get elected, whatever side of the aisle he sits on.
"Defending America's Borders", "Traditional Family Values", any one of a
thousand conservative cliches can be just as politically correct if the
politician is just saying them with no concept or ideas behind them.


True enough, but "politically incorrect" almost always means something
that a public figure WON'T say if he wants to avoid scandalous ridicule
or outrage. Right now "joint legal custody" is used partly to mollify
the masses when fathers demand joint custody and might begin getting
public opinion on their side. It's nothing more than a smokescreen that
some official can throw up around the issue, smiling and saying, "but
this state ALREADY has joint legal custody as the norm..."




Easy response there. "Look, I'm not applying to be the kid's LAWYER; I
want to be the kid's PARENT. Comprehend?"


Sure, if you know what Joint Legal really means. Many men don't and
don't figure out until much later that they've been misled and
essentially "had" by their ex-wives and the system.

Usually, though, it's just being used to mollify the public, with a show
of "but we ALREADY offer men joint (omitting the word "legal") custody
whenever they want it"... And the man who replies as you say above
isn't going to get much sympathy from the public when the court makes a
show of how they offered him joint (omitting the word "legal") custody
but he refused it.

It's a sort of shell game, verbal origami, whatever you want to call it
-- but it's a weasel word phrase by any definition.

- Ron ^*^



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