hi all
 

I too am a single parent of three beautiful boys. I am trying to adjust
still to being just me. Trying to balance everything on my own; hard when
you are use to being two people. Plus I have to consistantly deal with the
**** my children are constantly going through due to their fathers lack of
wanting to be a parent anymore. Thought maybe I will get some ideas here to
help deal with things.

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I too am a single parent of three beautiful boys. I am trying to adjust
still to being just me. Trying to balance everything on my own; hard when
you are use to being two people. Plus I have to consistantly deal with
the
**** my children are constantly going through due to their fathers lack of
wanting to be a parent anymore. Thought maybe I will get some ideas here
to
help deal with things.

Hi, and welcome from Alberta, Canada.
I'm Kat. I have two boys - aged 4.5 and 5.5. My oldest doesn't live with
me, but the youngest does, and also expecting a baby girl in 2 weeks. I'm
kind of one of the ones who are not really in the single-parent category,
but like a few others, I stick around anyways.
Sorry about the loss of your childrens' father and his choices.
I'm not sure what kind of ideas you're looking for to deal with things, but
maybe that will come later? Other than to just deal with things day by day,
I really wouldn't know. You aren't alone being a single parent, since
around here we're mostly single parents from the start, from divorce, death
and things like that.
Welcome, anyways, and hope you could give and receive from the group!

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Hello,

I'm Bev from Pa. I have been both single and not single but with
children either way :). Mine are older now ,my Oldest is living in San
Jose California and going to the Art Institutes International in San
Fran. Youngest about to be 18 ugh she has an 18 1/2 month old
daughter. They live with me . I have grandkids galore! ( boy 13 yrs
old, a girl 9 yrs. another boy 3 yrs, um that makes 4 altogether ! ) I
was divorced legally just about 15 years ago . I know how hard it is in
the beginning , trying to adjust . My daughters father was not very
attentive to parenting either. Patience will be your best defence .
Even though it hurts like hell dealing with what your boys are going
through you will need to try to do your best to not bad mouth their
dad. My Ex hurt our girls terribly and to this day they long for the
father I wish he could of been. If you do the best you can to be all
that you can and don't sweat the small stuff , you will all be o.k.
What I found helpful after groveling with my Ex to be there for his
kids was to just be there for them myself the best I could be. Changing
him was/is not an option . Although I am still heart broken that he
managed to mess up his relationship with his girls, now that they are
older and have drawn their own conclusions, I know In my heart there
was nothing I could of done that would have made it any different for
them today. Try to be that one parent they can depend on, that is all
you can do.
While it feels scary in the trenches now, know that there are many
Single Dads and Moms in there with you doin a fine job ! Good Luck !
Bev

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I too am a single parent of three beautiful boys.

Me too, though I'm not sure beautiful is a good adjective as they get
older. Try handsome!

I am trying to adjust
still to being just me. Trying to balance everything on my own; hard when
you are use to being two people.

Just drop back to very short term goals or even "one day at a time" if
things get really bad.

Plus I have to consistantly deal with the
**** my children are constantly going through due to their fathers lack of
wanting to be a parent anymore.

Can't help you there. I only know about mothers not wanting to parent.
Please don't write him off though, it's a common error.

Thought maybe I will get some ideas here to
help deal with things.

What things?

Dennis

'Kate wrote:

I saw that dennis!

Me too!
Don't like google though, it cuts me off after each reply and I have to
log on again.Really slows things down so that I get fed up and don't
bother. The de newsreader was Berlin university but they have started
charging for a service that never worked properly for me anyway.

Dennis