Potty Problems
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I have a 4 1/2 year old son who is pottied trained but gets lazy and doesn't want to poop in the toilet. He rather go in his pants and not say anything about it. I have tried everything to get him to stop doing this. I have punished him, by spanking, time out, taking the tv or playing time away for a couple days, I even try just talking to him. He doesn't do it to get attention because he gets so much attention. Does anyone else have any ideas on how i can get my son to stop doing this? Thanks, |
"Carmey Bloom" wrote in message
... Hello, I have a 4 1/2 year old son who is pottied trained but gets lazy and doesn't want to poop in the toilet. He rather go in his pants and not say anything about it. Does anyone else have any ideas on how i can get my son to stop doing this? How about if you make him responsible for cleaning up his own messy underpants? A 4.5 year old should have no problem rinsing out a pair of poopy underpants in a toilet, then putting them in the washer with other laundry and putting in the soap and getting the laundry started. You will need to show him how and help him initially, but after a while, he should be able to do this himself. This would not be punishment -- it's just that you're out of the cleaning dirty underwear department. Be 100% matter-of-fact. This is not about a power struggle between you, or about pleasing or angering mom. He has a choice-- what's more of a hassle, cleaning his pants, or using the toilet? And you won't care which he chooses, because it won't be your business, it will be his, and it's no skin off of your nose which either he picks. -- Warm Regards, Claire Petersky please substitute yahoo for mousepotato to reply Home of the meditative cyclist: http://home.earthlink.net/~cpetersky/Welcome.htm Personal page: http://www.geocities.com/cpetersky/ See the books I've set free at: http://bookcrossing.com/referral/Cpetersky |
In article , Carmey Bloom wrote:
Hello, I have a 4 1/2 year old son who is pottied trained but gets lazy and doesn't want to poop in the toilet. He rather go in his pants and not say anything about it. I have tried everything to get him to stop doing this. I have punished him, by spanking, time out, taking the tv or playing time away for a couple days, I even try just talking to him. He doesn't do it to get attention because he gets so much attention. Does anyone else have any ideas on how i can get my son to stop doing this? It may not be about a power struggle or laziness or calls for attention or preference for going in his pants. Some kids get so wrapped up in what they are doing that they pay no attention to what is happening in their bodies. This sort of selective attention can be a big asset or a big handicap, depending on what attention gets focussed on. Several years ago, when our son was still having poop accidents, we made it a requirement that he had to use the bathroom before he was allowed computer time at home or at the library. This change reduced the number of accidents by about a factor of 3. (Somewhat unusually for boys, he was potty trained for peeing and dry through the night for a year or two before the poop accidents stopped.) ------------------------------------------------------------ Kevin Karplus http://www.soe.ucsc.edu/~karplus Professor of Biomolecular Engineering, University of California, Santa Cruz Undergraduate and Graduate Director, Bioinformatics Senior member, IEEE Board of Directors, ISCB (starting Jan 2005) life member (LAB, Adventure Cycling, American Youth Hostels) Effective Cycling Instructor #218-ck (lapsed) Affiliations for identification only. |
Carmey Bloom wrote in :
Hello, I have a 4 1/2 year old son who is pottied trained but gets lazy and doesn't want to poop in the toilet. He rather go in his pants and not say anything about it. [snip] Is he perhaps a bit constipated? If you get him to sit on the potty for a fairly long time (10-15 minutes) every day, with a book or something to make it not-boring, maybe that would help? -- Penny Gaines UK mum to three |
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