I understand your feelings.

Please remember why you are doing this: To thank the troop leaders who put
in so much time.

A lot of the parents from whom you didn't hear may just have their money and
thier girls in uniforms at the appointed time. And some probably didn't get
your email.

I would take the best picture you can, with the girls however they are
dressed.

Have ALL the girls sign the card. It is not thier if their parents weren't
as helpful in this.

If only a few parents donate, you might say, special thanks to Sarah, Joan,
Millie and Susie who helped pay for this. But you probably shouldn't. That
would be too tactless.

You also have to think of it from the other parents' perspective: Gee, I get
my kid to the meetings, make sure we bring snacks and whatever. And now you
want MORE money. What do you thing? We don;t have rent, food to buy or
college to save for? Because of this and the cost of equipment for sports
(which they girls all have), and other things, you can't assume that parents
just have money laying around the house.

Jeff