Dawn,

Keeping track of the behavior in a log style sounds fantastic. I am
going to start that immediately. He is going to be starting preschool
in the fall. I guess I am trying to pay better attention now so that
when I am dealing with behavior reports from preschool teachers, I have
a better idea what to do.

ADD question:
Did you 9 year old have issues with "knowing the rules", but not being
able to use them to guide his behavior in practice?

Thanks,
Karen