She was 9 weeks along.

Also, she & I were at the hospital last Thursday when the spotting first
started. My post probably made it sound as if we waited until Monday to go
to the hospital first thing. Not so. Monday (last night) was the 2nd
hospital visit, Thursday was the 1st.

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OK, please do NOT flame me for that title. I am NOT pressuring my wife to
have intercourse right after miscarriage; actually, SHE is the one being
aggressive.

I did post earlier saying that my wife had started spotting last Thursday,
asked on Sunday if there was a point to going to hospital. Well yesterday
the bleeding exploded, and even some blood "clots" came out, in fact one
of them appeared to be a small placenta.

Obviously we went to the hospital and yes, a pap smear showed tissue
"left-overs" and in fact she had miscarried. It's a done deal now.

She has not mourned that much yesterday & today, I don't think it's a case
of "it hasn't set in yet," because she actually mourned quite a lot from
Thursday 'til now as she sort of assumed a miscarriage was happening.

At any rate the nurse practioner (not the doctor) advised waiting 6 weeks
before we have sex again, and said that actually chances of pregnancy are
very high right after miscarried but that she highly does not recommend
this.

Let me stress: if this is what they recommend, and if this is medically
the right thing to do, I am OK with that. It is my WIFE who is pretty much
saying "heck with them, let's have sex now once the bleeding stops if we
feel like it." If it won't be damaging to her psychologically or
physically, fine, but if any damage is inevitable then I'm going to wait.

Let me conclude by saying that I don't THINK she is trying to "rebound
make a baby" as it were, she has stated wanted to name the fetus "Angel"
and honor it as a deceased baby in its own right, separate and unique from
any other babies which may or may not follow. So the "rebound make a baby"
doesn't SEEM to be the motivation."

Tips? Thanks.