It also depends upon the twin set. As Janet says hers are always at each
other even in class. Kathleen and Chris last year came home to tell us
about their day in class. The teacher had asked each child to clean their
desks. Kathleen (the teachers dream kid), said she didn't have to as her
desk was already neat, when I asked about Chris's desk (who sits in the
front of class because of eye site), she said "how should I know". I was
actually really glad to get the answer as it means that neither pay much
attention to the other one in class. On the playground I know that they
don't play together - Chris plays basketball with the older boys and
Kathleen hangs with her "gal pals." The only time I have ever heard
something about the playground was when Chris got threatened by a 4th grader
for accidentally pushing him while running. I imagine they keep eyes on
each other but don't play around. Again, it totally depends upon the kids.
As far as competition, our competition stays mainly in the house, except
that Kathleen was put on the A honor roll last year and Chris missed even
the A/B by one B (a really stupid system if you ask me for second graders).
He was mad because the A honor roll kids got to have breakfast with the
principal." It would have been an issue had he been in another class or
not.

Shirley
Chris and Kathleen 1/95

"H Schinske" wrote in message
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wrote:

I don't get it. Why does this bother you? My twins are completely
different people too, which is why they have differences in the first
place. It doesn't bother me to talk about those differences.

I think it's *needless* comparisons we're talking about. There is a
difference
between noting that there are differences, and framing every comment about
either twin IN TERMS OF their difference from the other. For instance,
there is
no particular reason people can't say of one twin, "Gee, she's pretty
tall,
isn't she?" without any reference to whether she is taller or shorter than
her
sister.

I would not like it if everything people said about me was phrased solely
in
terms of how I differ from my husband, and vice versa. (I say my husband,
and
not one of my siblings, because I think twin relationships are often quite
a
bit like spousal ones in some ways.)

--Helen