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Well, that's a pretty convoluted attempt at an explanation but, I'm guessing you gave it your best shot.

Which part didn't you understand?

It wasn't my kids' teeth that got that bad.

It was mine.

Dental insurance only covers a portion of the costs.

There are co-pays.
There are deductibles.
There is a maximum benefit per year.

When there isn't enough money, as when a non-custodial parent does't or won't contribute to the support of the
children, sometimes expenses have to be put off, or eliminated entirely. Many times, it's the custodial parent's
health care, which is precisely what I posted back on 2/5.

Get it that time?
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It's not a matter of getting it--It's a matter of believing it. And no, I still don't believe it. I don't believe
you (or your kids)
had that much dental work done. I don't believe you were originally implicating yourself as having needed that
amount of dental
work done when I asked how your childrens' teeth got so bad, and I don't believe your dance about the insurance
when I
cornered you on the original post. Get it now?

It doesn't matter what you do or don't believe - that doesn't change reality.

My daughter has never had a cavity - and the only major dental work she's had to undergo was to repair the damage
done to her permanent teeth when she was punched in the face.

And even though money doesn't make it all better, as Teach insists, we are absolutely requesting restitution in the
case the DA has against the kid who punched my daughter.

You're going to have to explain this opne to me, Moon. Did I say that money DOES make it all better? Or did I say
that money DOESN'T make it all better? I'm not quite sure where you are quoting me from. Is it the part where I
say that the ex of the guy was unjustly imprisoned for 13 years should show some compassion because demanding the
money the state says is due to her for CS is not going to change her children's childhoods one bit. It's not, you
know.

As for your situation, I absolutely think you should go after restitution! The young man who attacked her needs to
face the consequences of his actions. He DID something and needs to make restitution. The guy who was unjustly
imprisoned does not fall into that category.

How is your daughter doing, btw?

4 months, and we're still taking it one day at a time. He damaged 3 permanent teeth, he and his mother haven't so
much as looked me in the eye, much less apologized for the damage he's caused, and the next hearing is in a couple of
weeks. I keep hoping that she'll come back to some semblance of her old self, but I'm told it can take 9 months or
longer.

Once he's got the conviction in his record, I'm contacting the school board to find out why this animal wasn't
expelled.

I can't fathom why he wasn't expelled!! Is he a special ed student of some sort?

Nope.

Sometimes an IEP can contain language about consequences for
behavior. So I take it that the case hasn't gone to court yet.

Nope - there have been 2 hearings so far - this next one is supposed to be a dispositional hearing - so it should be
over. He has a social worker and a public defender - we get the bills.

His social worker recommended 9 months supervision, random drug and alcohol checks, he has to get a job and he has to
work out a restitution plan (we're over the $5000 max for juvenile cases, after the insurance covered what it's going to
cover)

Do you have
any idea of the defense that they will be using?

He doesn't have any defense - about 75% of the whole incident was caught on security video. He was heard, before the
event, mouthing off in one of his classes about how he wanted to start a fight. He has been heard, after the event,
continuing to mouth off about how he's going to get off "so easy" - I've asked the student who heard all of this file a
report with the on-site police officer so that it's in the file that will go before the judge in a couple of weeks..

He continues to ignore the no contact order with regards to my daughter - she's filed reports with the aforementioned
police officer as well, on the recommendation of the DA's office, again so that it's all in the file.

Reality is, however, that an order for restitution is simply that - a piece of paper. Right now, it's costing me in the
area of $300 a month on all of the already incurred, as well as ongoing, medical bills, to not get further in debt.

Since I have no faith that this kid or his family will make good on the restitution, I've also filed a case with the
state crime victim compensation fund - on the theory that if they reimburse, then they can go after this kid and his
family.

All of which doesn't amount to a hill of beans - I just want my daughter back.