dwalker1 wrote:
Interesting situation you have. You'll need to remember you may not have
say in what "penalty" is handed to your ex. Theoretically, you could do
more damage to your daughter than the good you're pursing -- only time
will tell. Eventually, we will all answert to our children and God.


Hi Darrian:

Every action I take in life is taken only after careful consideration of
how my daughter will be affected. I'm curious to know more about the
theory you mentioned, the one in which pursuing enforcement of the
custody order my ex and I agreed to could possibly do my daughter more
harm than good. I honestly don't think that's likely at all.

I understand that for those, like you, who are not familiar with details
of my case, and of the hell my daughter's mom has put my daughter and me
through for the last 8 years, my actions and my objectives might sound
extreme. Well, I guess they are extreme. But extreme and prolonged
abuses require an extreme response. Like I said in my original post,
I've tried everything I can to peacefully resolve/end the custody
interference and parental alientation my ex insists on perpetrating--
without taking legal action.

I don't know if you have children Darrian, but try to imagine promising
your little girl, after planning with her a fun-filled weekend of
activities, that you will be there to pick her up at a specific time and
place, only to have her taken away. How do you explain what happened
when you see her next? Keep in mind that you must not say anything
negative about the person who took them. What do you say? And what
message do you think the poor child, who is old enough to know that her
mom is breaking the rules, is getting when she gets taken away? Here's
a few that I've thought of: 1) Dad is unimportant. 2) Rules and laws are
unimportant. 3) Promises are unimportant. This is more than a lost
weekend between father and daughter--it's emotional abuse of a child!

When somebody abuses your child, you have to do something -- don't you?
Maybe the god you mentioned would want you to forgive and forget, or
something righteous like that. That's my initial instinct, too, until
it occurs to me that doing so will almost certainly result, eventually,
in my child growing up without a father. Doing nothing provides
implicit approval of the crime. In fact, doing nothing can be
interpreted by the court as having WAIVED YOUR CUSTODY RIGHTS. It
happened to me.

Darrian, I'm tired of being forced to break promises I make to my
innocent daughter because her mom won't obey the law. I have promised
my daughter that I will pick her up on Friday, only to have that promise
broken because mom takes her away. For the last time! This scenario,
repeated over and over, is typical of my life as a dedicated father
trying to have a relationship with a child who is, in her "best
interest" (hahahaha), in the primary care of a bitter, sociopathic
(IMHO) mother.

I pursue this action with complete confidence (based on years of
watching the family court let mom violate orders with complete impunity)
that neither the family court judge, nor the police, will penalize my
daughter's mom to the degree that will cause my daughter to suffer any
more than she is suffering now.

It understand that it may be hard to believe if you don't know the
details (which are far too extensive for posting to a newsgroup), but
jail or a large fine for her mom may actually be the *best* thing,
long-term, for my little girl. It might result in her relationship with
her dad being unencumbered for what is left of her childhood.

Thanks for adding to the discussion. I sense you are concerned that my
daughter will be harmed if I'm successful in prosecuting. Don't worry,
I've thought of all the possible outcomes and I don't see that happening.

It appears the 278.5 criminal case is dead in the water, but I will post
here the results of the contempt case when they are available.
Arraignment is July 6th.

Jay R.