In article ,
Banty wrote:

In article , Robyn Kozierok says...

In article ,
animzmirot wrote:

I think a family member should not
be so controlling as to hog an item for themselves and not share it.

That doesn't seem to be what's going on here. Claire simply wants to be
informed if someone used up her "special treats". I handle this by keeping
my special treats in my office. I will share, if asked, but the kids aren't
allowed to just take them as they can with other snacks in the house. That
way, I know myself if we are running out.

And what exactly is wrong with keeping some goodies to oneself anyway? What
is
being inappropriately controlled?? Unless little chocolate bars or favorite
tea
cookies will be going to their shrinks saying "I was purchased by a
controlling
household"

I think that what I'm reacting to when I hear about someone buying
special treats for themselves is households where the parents get the
good stuff, and eat it in front of the kids -- but won't let the kids
have any. I know they are rare, but I've run into it, and find it
pretty offensive.

Heck, when I was a kid I can remember a couple of family gatherings
where the grownups got steak off the grill -- and the kids got hot dogs.
I don't mind eating hot dogs, but not while others are eating steak! My
parents would never do that -- they might offer us a choice -- but these
were events where someone else was providing the food, and we had better
manners than to challenge the situation.

Except for situations like a lunch room, I won't eat in front of other
people without offering them some of whatever I'm eating, and that
includes children.

My parents taught us that rule -- on the other hand, I didn't know my
mother liked lox until I was in my 20's. Apparently she craved them
when she was pregnant -- but there was no way she could afford for US to
find out we liked them, so she bought them and hid them behind the
vegetables . . .

Besides, thems that does the shopping, gets some benefits. (Thems that up
and
help with the shopping, can claim similar benefits!)


With that said, I think anyone that buys halloween candy 3 weeks ahead of
time and expects it to still be there is either from another planet or
living in denial. If you have children, they're going to want to eat candy.

I guess I'm from another planet, or my kids are, because as much as they
may *want* to eat candy, if I tell them the candies are for halloween, and
they shouldn't touch them, they won't. They might beg, but they would
*never* just take them. (As in the OP's case, DH might be a different
story....)

There *is* no reason why that can't happen on this planet. 'cept for folks
who
don't like to do it dominating the group interaction sometimes.

Banty

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Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care