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"Strutter" wrote in message
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On Apr 23, 11:08?pm, "Strutter" wrote:
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On Mon, 23 Apr 2007 18:36:31 -0500, Strutter wrote for all to see:
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I also pay $8K/year in child support and another $6K/year in
traveling expenses to be with my daughter. My 39 year old ex wife
introducing her 25 year old boyfriends to my daughter just rubs me the
wrong
way a little. Especially since those relationships don't seem to be
lasting
too long.
Ya know......I thought you were thinking of your daughter when you
posted about your ex's introducing her b/f's to the child. Now I see
why your shorts are really in a knot. 8K a year in CS and 6K a year in
traveling expenses does not make up for the limited amount of time you
are spending with your child.Move closer, you can spend more time with
your daughter ,save your 6K in traveling expenses,mind your own
business about who your Ex is dating and you might feel better.
I wonder where I put that clipped ad from the paper that said raising
children was easy... Hafta look into that...
I was referring to the distance issue specifically.
I am concerned about strange men floating in and out of my daughter's
life. I don't care who my ex dates or how many people she dates,
Apparently you do. You're not too crazy about your ex, nearing her 50's,
IIRC, dating these younger guys who dump her. (quoted: "My ex seems to be
on a trend of dating young guys that dump her after they get what they
want from her.")
Okay, I care because of my daughter. If my daughter wasn't involved, then I
wouldn't care at all. Better?
Maybe you should just sit your daughter down and explain to her that
Mommy's a big, mean jerk and likes to date people that are old enough to
be her father, yet are half her Mommy's age. Explain to her that Mommy
just wants some of these guys for grown up reasons, but her 'boyfriends'
only want to get what they want and move on.
I only say positive things about my ex to our daughter.
Like I said, I don't care who my ex dates.
Like you did say, apparently you do care whom your ex dates.
See above.
I have a problem with the fact that there have been so many lately, and
they are all around my daughter. I don't think it's right,
and I don't see how my mention of child support and traveling expenses
changes that fact and turns me into the bad guy.
You're the one that brought it up. Glorifying child support payments
around here won't get you any hero biscuits, awards or applause.
I wasn't glorifying it, and I'm sorry I mentioned it, because it totally
detracted from what I was asking for opinions about. I didn't realize it
was such a touchy issue, and that I would be immediately judged differently
for mentioning a mere number.
B-b-but... I thought you said you didn't care who dates who! You're
talking circles. How do you know she gets dumped after putting out? Or
do these guys want her money... And take it and leave... Or her shoes.
Take them and run. Her time - there's never enough time as it is, those
greedy guys!!!
Like I said, I don't care other than the effect on my daughter. I know she
gets dumped, because I'm the one she calls when she's upset. We do get
along very well, but we strongly disagree on this particular issue. It's
why I came here for opinions. My ex doesn't have any money.
I never have and I never will, so this question was an easy one.
So why are you jumping my case for not wanting my daughter exposed to
certain things?
I just want her to give a relationship time before my daughter is
introduced into the picture.
If your ex is leading the reckless lifestyle with your daughter, maybe
she'd be willing to let the kid live with you and you can provide a stable
home without people in and out, in and out and your ex can go off living
her life however she wants.
My ex lives her life how she wants now.
And I bet they live in an economically depressed area that stretches about
1000 miles every direction from them, right?
Of course not. When the right opportunity opens, then I'll be there.
I only came here looking for honest opinions, whether the same as mine or
not, but it seems to have turned into a personal attack on me. Perhaps I'm
not the best at expressing myself, but I'm the best father I know how to be.
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