Wouldn't it be funny to watch the courts and lawyers go bankrupt because
nobody is getting divorced or fighting over kids because nobody is getting
married or willing to have kids under the current laws? Of course this will
never happen, but it makes me think.

-Drew

"Phil #3" wrote in message
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"Hobbit" wrote in message
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On Tue, 8 Jul 2003 10:52:56 -0400, "Meldon Fens"
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Hobbit wrote in message
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This can only suggest that it is meant to be that way. It is by design.
Some
group is benefiting and the status quo defended and justified.

Absolutely. What happened to my father is he is a paint contractor by
trade who had his own business when he was married to my stepmom.
About the time that my stepmom divorced my dad (to go back with her
sons father who just got out of prison for child molestation) they had
filed business bankruptcy, essentially shutting my dads business down
and my dad had a job making 10 dollars an hour. My dad is illiterate,
dyslexic, and my mom never took him for a ride and left him with
custody of me and my brother when he went through his first divorce.
He didn't understand what the court system can do. So, my stepmon
takes him to court and they base his child support on a business
owning paint contractor from some book in the court room and set his
child support at 680 a month when his income is 10 dollars an hour.
The support is set up through his company and his paychecks are about
120 per week after court deductions (another thing, they base child
support on gross income instead of net and my dad gave up his right to
claim his children, double whammy up the ass). So he can't even afford
to have a place of his own, his parents are dead, he's 49, what does
he do, he quits his job and tries to start up painting on his own
again. But, he is not able to renew his contractors license because of
the enormous child support payments and he gets a cease and desist
order in the mail so he can't advertise. Anyways, over the next few
years he gets behind in his support to the tune of 30,000 plus and he
is stuck in a rut that he can't escape from. He can't make his
payments for six months and is summoned to court for contempt, just 24
hours in jail, but now he is a booked and convicted criminal a man
that has never done anything wrong in his life, a hard worker, a good
person, a giving human being reduced to a criminal, it broke my heart
to see this. During this court time, he had my step-brother (whom he
adopted during his 12 year marriage to my stepmom) dropped from child
support, but somehow they managed to raise support instead of lower
it.
Well it is a couple of years later and he is in the same boat, trapped
and unable to pay support at these unbelievable amounts and even more
in arrears, it is a neverending trap, like drowning. She is starting
to raise a stink again and I am afraid that she is going to get him in
trouble again.
To top it off, she marries her sons child molesting father, pops out
two more kids in two years, and her current husband gets in an
accident so he can't work. Now she is really coming after my dad.
Makes me sick to my stomach. I love my half-sisters, they are just
pawns in this sick money trrap, but it makes me sick to see my dad
treated in such a way. I live in fear for the future especially since
they are imprisoning people in state prison, not just jail, for
failure to pay child support. If such a thing happens to my dad, who
is now in his mid 50's, not remarried, and in poor health, it would
break him and probably push me over the edge. I will never involve
myself in this system, once you marry and, especially once you have
kids, you are at the mercy of your wife, bottom line. The power shifts
to the wife full force, because she can divorce you for no reason at
anytime and then you are forced to support two households, your old
one and the new one you have to try and build for yourself. A
sickening system that I will have nothing to do with. It is not worth
the risk.


You are indeed a wise man to observe and learn. Most of us (I think) had
to
learn the hard way because, speaking for myself, I just could not believe
that the inalienable rights we are supposed to have is one big lie. Of all
the men I knew who went through this before me, I considered the
propaganda
that "he must be a real asshole to have caused his problems" only to find
that it's not because he was a bad person, he was just male. Sadly, I
leaned
this though experience and the lesson has been reinforced by nearly every
case with which I have become acquainted.
Not to say that all women are such that they would pull this but there is
no
way to be sure until it is far too late. It just isn't worth the gamble,
IMO.
Phil #3

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