"teachrmama" wrote
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YES!! It IS guessing! Perhaps dad wanted more time with the kid anyway,
but knew NOTHING about shared parenting. Perhaps when girlfriend said "My
ex an I have a shared parenting plan. It saves him a bundle on child
support, and we both get time with the kids," he said "Wow. Shared
parenting. Tell me about it." And she did. And she also said "And you'd
save money, because you wouldn't have to pay for child care. I could
watch the kid." And he said "Wow! Sounds like a win-win situation.
I'll try it." And the judge agreed. You can't say that just because A
suggested to B that he'd save money, that is his sole motivation. Unless
he came to you in person and said "I'm going for shared parenting JUST to
save money." Did he?
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Might as well save your breath. He took his ball and went home--Said we
didn't play nice.