On Mar 14, 10:16*pm, Anne Rogers wrote:
it's my intention to see if I can dig up data on the habit thing, I've
seen the 21 days in so many places, but I don't know if it's one data
point that has propagated, or whether there is more evidence behind it.
Obviously if what you try makes you all miserable then you may prefer to
stop anyway, but if it's no worse than before, you don't want to give up
too soon! I suspect though that if it is going to work you'll notice
some changes and it's repeating what made those changes that makes it
stick. I suddenly hit an uber busy couple of days, so I'm going to have
to be disciplined and not go google it now, maybe tomorrow evening or
Sunday!

Oh don't go to any effort. The way I see it, it's easier to tell
myself 10 days than 21 days ;-). I don't expect the problem to be
resolved that quickly, but I think I should see something happening,
one way or another. if it looks like progress of any sort, we'll
continue on. If it seems the opposite, we'll re-think it.

FWIW - last night was our "first" try, although i hadn't had time to
rearrange the furniture with the crib by the bed. it's still in the
same room. Recall that though she mostly co-slept, she has slept in
the crib, more so lately.

I nursed her while sitting down, then laid her in the crib tired but
awake. She didn't do her usual "That thing is a torture chamber"
scream, but she did complain a bit. Still, she was so tired she laid
down. she kept getting up and down but was laying back down on her
own. I rubbed her back, talked to her. In the room there's a CD with
lullabies playing, but no other 'white' noise. After some time - about
3 songs - I kissed her and walked out. She fussed for about 2 minutes
then fell asleep.

I slept in the same room. She woke again about 3 hours later, I didn't
pick her up. Just rubbed her back, she calmed down but whenever I
moved away she cried. We tried a few times and I laid back down
(telling her 'go to sleep.') She fussed a bit but was out in minutes.
This happened at least 2 more times. One time she took a lot longer of
crying and fussing before she'd sleep, but she did. Then at 6:30am she
finally woke up and it was clear she wasn't sleeping again, so I
nursed her and we relaxed a bit and eventually got up.

The hardest part of last night was not just bringing her to bed with
me because I was too tired to stand there. But now I've moved the crib
close to the bed so we'll see if it works. The crib converts to a
toddler bed, which I considered doing, but I'm going to wait a bit for
that, as there's a potentially dangerous spot (the bed frame is a
futon frame with arms, so the crib isn't perfectly flush against the
bed) she could easily get stuck in, esp. if she's flailing about and
trying to get to me.