"SpiderHam77" wrote in message
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I agree with Snowshoe here... The time factor alone... over 6 years
of Custody.. gives you whats known as Defacto Custody if nothing has
ever been written on paper about the Custody. Meaning that the courts
are not going to just upset the balance of the Children's lives, based
on the fact that Mommy now wants them...

I can't imagine any court ever doing such a thing. 6 years is a long
time... And if there have been no complications up until now.. why
would the courts step in an intervine. I find the people who are so
against the courts and how rulings are made, are the ones who have had
a ruling made against them, and not the way they wanted it to go.

Just because it makes sense, Spidey, does not mean that that's the way it
will happen. I can imagine a lawyer up there pleading that girls need their
mothers during the difficulties of adolescence, and that mom has worked
through the difficulties she was experiencing after the birth of her second
child. She is now ready, willing, and able to be the mother that teenage
girls need and deserve. A few tears from mom, regretting past decisions,
"Oh, no, Your Honor, I don't hold their father in the least bit reponsible
for driving me away because he didn't understand post partum depression.
Why didn't I fight for my girls? I was so depressed that I was sure he
would win in court. I was too weak to stand up for myself. The intervening
years? Well, Sir, it has taken a lot of hard work on my part to get to
where I am today. But now I am ready." quavering smile on tear-streaked
face You have not experienced unfairness in court, so it is easy for you
to encourage this man to take the chance. Those who *have* experienced
unfairness are not so sure it is a good idea.