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Old July 28th 04, 05:33 AM
teachrmama
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Well, I'm certainly glad you took the time to get to know the man who
fathered your child before you "did it." It is always good to spend at
least 18 months getting to know someone before you make a lifetime
commitment like getting married or having sex and producing a child.

"Pammie1" wrote in message
lkaboutparenting.com...
Okay I am back. I had to go to work and make some dollars for the
household. I am going to try to respond to all question at once. First
of all Paula I am not going on welfare nor have I thought about it. Even
if I wanted to I make too much money. You have to be poverty to qualify
for government assistance. ) I was just letting Bob see how he would
like it if he had to pay for my kid.
To everyone thinking this, I am not angry. I just strongly believe that
every NCP should support their kid financially. I am not all about the
money (to the person who made that comment), I am about grown folks
stepping up to the plate and taking care of their resposibilties. I can
afford to take care of my kid on my own and I am, but why should I be the
only one giving up going on cruises. By the way I am taking my cruise
next year, my treat for being a good Mom. My money is going to pay for
it. Anyway, to the person who say child support shouldn't go towards
child care. I believe in a child getting a good education. I want my kid
in a learning environment not just running around the yard outside making
mud pies. My 3 year old is already writing her name, she knows her ABCs,
her telephone number etc..
Long story short, I am a single Mom because you have these worthless guys
that play games just to get you in bed. You know the ones that tell you
everything you want to hear to get you in bed. Well he played the game
now he has to suffer the consequences. He asked me to marry him and after
I found out I was pregnant, I also found out he had a girlfriend and a
wife of 13 years. I don't want to hear it Bob. We are only human. We
make mistakes and we live and learn. That's all we can do. My child is
here I can only move forward. Besides he had 3 kids outside of his
marriage. So I think he really needs to pay for his babies not doubt
about it. He doesn't have too much to do with my kid. He takes to
Chuckie Cheese and out for ice cream every once in a while, but I want him
to get to know her. It's not her fault that we made a mistake.
If you are a man or women who really don't like giving your money away,
just wear a condom or stop having sex. I have chosen to stop having sex.
I will not make the same mistake twice. I read my Bible and I have
learned that fornication is a sin. The bottom of the line is that either
way it goes we lose. Me being the single parent if forced to give up my
outgoing lifesytle to stay home and raise my kid and the father is forced
to pay out the butt. My kid's father has to pay $600 a month for support.
He is a C.P.A. I think he can afford it. I really don't care he had a
choice just like I did.


Pammie


before having it and in many cases denying the father a prt of the
child's
life. As for going on to welfare well if women really think that then
the
fathers should get custody, anyway do you really think that would help.
btw I
am a woman not a man just in case you are wondering.

Paula