"Beverly" wrote in message
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On Mon, 09 Apr 2007 11:09:31 GMT, "Kenneth S."
wrote:

But so long as women made unilateral choices, they should bear
the sole responsibility for their own choices.

I agree with the statement as written; however, just because a woman
CAN make a choice to abort while a man cannot does not necessarily
make it a unilateral choice. Children born within a marriage are
often a choice made by both,

I sense a SLIGHT contradiction in the above statements.

although not always. Conversely,
children born out of wedlock may be a choice made by both parents,

Contradiction repeated.

but
I would strongly advise any woman in this situation to make her own
decisions based upon her own circumstances.

They ALWAYS make their own decision.



My eldest's father wanted me to abort. We were not married. I made
my decision to keep my baby and took sole responsibility for my
decision. I never asked his father for anything.

My younger two children were a product of my marriage to my ex
husband. We made the decision together to have children before they
were conceived.

There's that pesky contradiction again, unless such "children" exist at the
time of conception.

While I may have made the decision to divorce, it was
based upon HIS decision to molest. If I really ever had a choice, I'd
have chosen that he never do what he did. I don't feel bad asking
that he bear some responsibility toward our children.

Translation: I don't feel bad forcing him to hand me free cash.


That said, I STILL see providing for my children as something *I* must
do. Women who DEPEND upon child support are only setting themselves
and their children up. Both households should have a responsible
parent, but the only parent we can MAKE responsible is ourselves.
Beverly