Anne Rogers wrote:

Consider if you are using bfding as an excuse due to some other worry of
yours, not DS's. Are you concerned about your mother's ability to care
for your ds, or potential power struggles between you? Are you afraid
for your ds in another home? Is it residual stuff from the PPD you're
dealing with? (I'm not saying DON'T use it for an excuse, if you need
to, I don't personally think it will do DS any harm if you hold off on
overnights with gma til he's three or so, nursing or not)

I don't think I am, my mum is like every grandmother, she spoils him, but
we keep it in check. We are talking here about leaving him with her for a
week (I'd be happy to do a day or even 1 night) whilst I work as she is a
teacher and has more holidays than I do. A week away from me when he is
14ish months old would almost certainly mean the end of bfing.

Why is this? From what I see, moms go away for awhile and during that
time, baby doesn't nurse and is fine. But when mom comes back, many
times baby goes right back to old nursing habits.

One friend went back to Vietnam for two weeks when her son was two or
three and still nursing to sleep. He did fine when she was gone and the
parents thought he was weaned, but no, when she came back he wanted to
nurse to sleep again. He weaned around 4.5 to 5 years old.

Jeanne