"SpiderHam77" wrote in
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Elaborate on planning. Well it's hard to give an exact bullet list
as you have asked for. As each and every senario is differnet from the
next. And all have to be judged in such a manor.
My planning started the day we started living together. I hired 2
lawyers, from 2 different law firms, 1 for her. 1 for me. And we spent
an afternoon, at my expense to draw out a Prenup. In it was listed
everything from the finicial ends, right down to custody arrangments.
I had it put right into an agreement she signed, under the advisement
of a lawyer, that specifically stated that custody of any children as
result of our marriage would be joint, unless one person opted out of
the arrangment, or could be proved to be harmful to the childs well
being, leaving the remaining parent with sole.

In Ontario, you cannot pre-nup custody and access. It is right in the Law.

Ontario Family Law:

52. (1) Two persons who are married to each other or intend to marry may
enter into an agreement in which they agree on their respective rights and
obligations under the marriage or on separation, on the annulment or
dissolution of the marriage or on death, including,
(a) ownership in or division of property;
(b) support obligations;
(c) the right to direct the education and moral training of their children,
but not the right to custody of or access to their children; and
(d) any other matter in the settlement of their affairs. R.S.O. 1990, c.
F.3, s. 52 (1); 2005, c. 5, s. 27 (25).

H.