Beliavsky wrote:
On Dec 5, 3:55 am, Sarah Vaughan wrote:
Beliavsky wrote:
On Dec 4, 4:38 pm, Banty wrote:
Do wring said relative's neck.
Yes, dissent from progressive orthodoxy must be silenced! Research on
problems with day care should be ignored!
I think the issue is not so much that people of a different opinion
should be silenced or ignored, as that they should have the tact not to
start telling someone that they *should* do things *this* way when they
don't know the whole story of the individual in question or why that
individual might be in a situation that means that that isn't a good option.

That standard should apply both to people who tell the OP to send to
her daughter to day care and to those who advise against it.

It should apply to anyone who tries to tell a parent who has made a
decision about their child that they 'should' be doing something
different, without taking that person's individual situation into
account. I would indeed feel just as strongly if this was a woman who
did not feel it right to put her child into day care and was receiving
unsolicited advice that she should do so. The difference here is that
the OP herself feels day care to be appropriate for their situation.

But a
blanket statement "Your daughter will do just fine", made by someone
who knows neither the child or the day care center, raises no hackles,
except from me.

Because it was made in response to the same belief from the parent, who
does know both the child and the day care centre. It did strike me as a
bit sweeping, but I think there's a hell of a difference between
reassuring someone that they're capable of making the right decision and
trying to tell them that they should be making a different decision.


All the best,

Sarah
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