"Beverly" wrote in message
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While it is clearly understood that children need food, clothing,
shelter and medical treatment; and that this should be provided by the
parents if at all possible, we have created a system that neglects
less measurable, but as important, needs of the child. If we truly
want what is in the best interests of children, some changes need to
be made. and quickly.

First and foremost, a child should have regular contact with both
sides of the gene pool. It is unfortunate when one parent walks away,
but the detriment may outweigh the benefit if the parent who walks
away is forced. There are many things which cannot be duplicated in
nature and one of those is the exact combination of traits handed down
by combining a female's unique set and a male's unique set. Children
gain insight into themselves and their traits by knowing both
contributors. A person who denies contact with the other parent
without substantial cause may be robbing the child of fully developing
all the child has to offer. If the best interests of the child are
the goal, such thievery should never be tolerated.

Then there is the issue of outrageous child support awards. This can
actually have an adverse effect on children. Currently, the
government uses a standard based upon the percentage of income an
intact family may spend on a child. I suppose this is fine for intact
families. However, the government attempts to equalize a disparity of
incomes in two separate households and this is damaging to a child.
Why? Children need to be aware that choices adults make cause
difference. As long as the child has the essentials, it should not
only be acceptable but REQUIRED that children experience the
differences in their parent's households. They need to understand
that there is a different standard of living dependent upon choices.
A doctor's standard of living SHOULD be higher than that of a manager
of the local pizza parlor, for instance. What will drive our children
to want to achieve more if there is no difference? If the best
interests of the child are the goal, understanding the reality of
difference between choices is a lesson best learned young.

There is so much more about how the current system can harm children,
but the only thing that the government seems to know how to measure is
money. Some things may never be measurable, but are common sense. If
we are truly interested in the best interests of the child, perhaps we
ought to look at a child's total needs. not just physical needs

Not to mention, handing free cash to the mother says absolutely NOTHING
about any child's physical needs, nothing!



Beverly