When was that, Teach? I know Unemployment Division here in oregun has access
to (federal?) funds for "displaced worker" re-training, which would seem to
apply in her case and Lecher's, at least now that so many of those high-tech
jobs are going that way. Has she been in touch with her state's employment
division lately?

Mel Gamble

My sympathies, Lech, about your programming job. My sister's job went to
India, too. She tried to get some assistance in some sort of retraining,
and was told that retraining funds were to help those who had never worked,
not those who had worked until their jobs were shipped overseas. She had to
sell her house, home of 25 years, pack up her beloved husband who had just
suffered a stroke, and move. She is getting paid by SS to stay home and
take care of hubby until she can find something and get on her feet again.


"Lecher9000" wrote in message
...
Interesting. I was divorced largely because i had a computer programming
job,
which I hated, and which made me cranky, and resent my wife for being able
to
stay home and watch TV and spend MY money. She simply refused to work ! I
am
blamed for "choosing poorly".

I kept at the programming job because of the money, and I thought "at
least
my wife won't leave, because I make a lot of money". Well, she left
anyway,
taking most of MY assets, after having mooched off me for 13 years (free
benefits, nice house, free psychiatrist, her own car, the whole 9 yards).

After the divorce, I finally had some time to actually keep a lot of what
I
earned, instead of having her make it disappear. That only lasted a few
years,
though. In December, 2002, our programmimng jobs (at IBM Global Services)
went
to India, and about 200 of us "American" programmers got the axe.

I look at it as a way to "start over" now. No ungrateful lazy
"self-actualizing" dependent wife ripping me off, no high-stress
technojob. I
am now looking for a low stress job which I will enjoy, or at least not
hate. I
still pay my monthly CS. I do not regret having a child, but I do regret
being
so "stand-up Protestant Work Ethic do the right thing protect the woman
and put
your head on the chopping block you are to be used and abused anything
else is
unamerican and unmanly stop whining work harder earn more so the wife can
spend
more". Bulls**t.

The sad thing is, even if I could do it all over, and got a prenup to
protect
me from "choosing poorly", the prenup would have been thrown out by 90
percent
of the judges!!!

God Bless all of you guys who are DOING something to fix the problems with
NCP
situation.