Kereru wrote:

"Ali's Daddie" wrote in message
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also posted in am

I am livid with my mother!

Some of you kind of know a little of the background with my mom.

For those who do not... Please don't think that I am being an ass. My mom
is
a terrible person, and that is putting it nicely. But, I still think we
should have some kind of working relationship.

My mother and Step Dad are coming for a visit for Labor Day. They have not
met Alegra yet, so this will be their first time to see her in person.

My mother has decided that she is going to give my daughter a french fry
or
some mac and cheese or something. I have tried being diplomatic with her.
"Please respect our wishes as fathers" and the like. But she insists. So
finally, I have been forced to take drastic measures. I have told her that
if she gives my daughter anything besides the formula that Jarrod and I
use,
I will have her arrested.

I know that is a little severe. But she simply will not back down.

She started giving my niece cereal at about 2 weeks and then other solids
at
about 6 weeks (mashed up french fries, pasta, etc) and since then, my
niece
has had a terrible digestive problem. She only has a BM about once a week
and it is very painful for her. She is almost 4 years old. My mothers food
choices might not be to blame entirely, but they sure didn't help...

I have tried taking the pediatrician route... "Alegra's pediatrician is
very
adamant about waiting until 5-6 months for solids but we will discuss it
at
the 4 month visit".. But she still goes on and on how "all my kids had
solids at a few weeks old, and they are all fine".. None of us are fine..
But I won't go into my problems because of what she fed to me as a
child...

Anyway... apart from going out of town with Alegra that weekend myself and
avoiding her altogether, do any of you have suggestions on what to do?

Jarrod and I have already decided that our daughter will not be left in
the
same room with my mom or step dad unless one of us is with them...

Thanx for readin.. Hadda get that off my chest :-)

--
LES!

Daddie to Alegra Lee. May 25th 2003!
"Daddie's Little Diva"

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YourHatDaddie at bonbon.net



Sounds to me like your Mum knows exactly how to annoy you and is doing just
that. Why is it so important to her to give Alegra solid food? Could it be
because you disagree and she wants to get your back up? I just can't see any
other reason for insiting that she will go against your will. I am only
suggesting this because you have said that your Mum isn't always the nicest
of people.

I think your idea of not leaving her alone with baby is the only solution.
No need to quote Drs etc.. just tell her that YOU the parents have decided
to wait a bit for solids, if your informed choice isn't enough for her then
she is being unreasonable. Unless she physically fought you to give the baby
a french fry then the police are not a serious option, but I didn't get the
impression that you ever really considered it.

Good Luck with the visit, I feel for you with such a beligerent person to
deal with. Stand your ground, don't get into a discussion on current
reccomensations etc.. (In my opinion) I don't think it will do any good.
Just tell her the rules.

Judy
------------
I would NEVER PERMIT someone to visit my child or me whom I couldn't
trust not to violate our wishes! Why in the world would you BOTHER?
Are you sickly co-dependent??

Just don't permit your mother to visit till she learns how to behave,
and if she doesn't ever, then so ****ing what!? Many MANY people hate
their parents' guts, and for good and excellent reasons, which should
give any CURRENT parent extreme pause to consider their behavior and
make them stifle themselves.
Steve