(Andre Lieven) wrote in
:

*You* have to decide whether the kids are better off with the
confrontation, police, and time spent with you, or better off without
all the tension and conflict, and without time with you. In many
ways, the kids lose either way.

And, who's responsible for that? Mommy and the sexist courts.

Its prejudice to blame those who *didn't make that come to pass*,
and to NOT balme those who... DID.

Well, I said nothing about fairness or blame. All I said was that you can
choose either way, not that any of the choices was great. As a father, the
best you can do is choose the option that you think is best for the kids.