deja.blues wrote:
"determined" wrote in message
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I know this is going to sound just awful, but my daughter is 11 months old
now, and my husband and I have only had sex about 6 times since she was
born... I feel really horrible, but at first I was so exhausted I
couldn't
care less, and now, I've been bleeding and cramping since August when I
got
my mirena put in. My doc says it can take up to 6 months for that to
stop,
or I can just have it taken out and go with another form of bc. I really
like not having to think about bc, and I've made it this far, hoping
things
will get better soon. Something else doesn't seem to be quite right
either - I just don't want it. Like there is zero "urge".

I'm beginning to feel defective. What is wrong with me? I feel like a
horrible wife. My husband is very supportive, but I know he misses the
intimacy. I'm not sure what to do. "Just do it"?

I'm bemused that in a breastfeeding newsgroup, noone seems to be aware that
the very hormones that sustains breastfeeding also puts a huge damper on
female sexual response. Breastfeeding lowers levels of estradiol (the
hormone responsible for keeping the urogenital tract lubricated and supple)
and raises the prolactin hormone, which suppresses sexual desire and lowers
testosterone - the hormone in both genders that stokes desire. If you are
breastfeeding for a year or more, not having sex can become a way of life.
Not to mention that after having a baby hanging off of you all day (and
night) the last thing you want is a full-grown man doing the same thing.

Ok, that solidifies it. My hormones are all out of whack. I *want*
that! The nipples themselves are off limits (at least they were, now it
doesn't bother me), but I'm quite anxious for it and complaining
there's not enough.