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**Banty**

In article . com,
says...

Thanks for the advice. I COMPLETELY agree with you about everything.
I'm not squeamish about the issue at all, and I know that feeding
your child is what breasts are really for...

But I also know it might be rather difficult to explain that to a 13 yo
boy. I certainly want them to know, understand, realize the intended
purpose for breasts and set a good example but I guess I'm just
afraid because of their age and they're not *my* children.
Unfortunately, society does set a "standard" and "boobs" are a
funny thing that little boys talk about. If they were a bit younger, or
mine, I would have no issue with it. To be honest, I don't really
have any issue with it, I was just wondering how others in the step-mom
role may have dealt with/approached it with their stepchildren.

Thirteen year old boys? I *have* one of those at *home*! He's increased in
size beyond my own and I ain't exactly tiny, and he's grown hair wherever hair
can possibly grow that I can see, as well as (I presume) where I can't see, so I
can fully understand how 13 year old boys may appear to the unprepared as a
monster. But believe me they're really not! ;-)

Thirteen year old boys may be adolescent males, but they are not dumb or without
insight and understanding. And they're still kids! A little ordinary
discretion (like a light receiving blanket thrown over your front while you set
up) is all that's necessary for the sake of a need for modesty. Sorta like you
throw a robe or pj's on (depending on your in-bed state of being

when you
get up in the morning so as not to parade naked. No big deal, but no need to
put on a full day's dressing gear either.

So go about it matter of factly and cheerfully, taking some simple measures of
modesty for the sake of the situation, answering whatever questions are halfway
well meant, and you'll be set.

Then, of course, I've got to really get my husband on the "same
page" with me so that he can enforce the normalcy that is
breastfeeding and not contribute to the phobia.

Sometimes folks just have to grow up and get used to things like that. At least
one male in your household needs to be required by you to be a grown up.

Cheers,
Banty