'Kate wrote in message ...
On Wed, 19 May 2004 16:15:16 -0400, "Tiffany"
I don't know for sure what to do about this situation. Sage's dad didn't
leave a will, but he didn't really leave anything of value. I do know he
has
hundreds of cd's, some live tapings of shows that are hard to find. I am
sure there were some furniture things, most likely a CD player, ect.

Sage doesn't really want to ask right out for some of his stuff. Legally
isn't she entitled to it though? She asked for something of his to his
girlfriend and she is going to send some of his tie-dyes. That is all.
Should I push this thing for her to get her some other things that she
might
appreciate later on in life? How to push it? The girlfriend does have a
baby
on the way so of course she wants some of the stuff too.

Tiff

If he wasn't married, then his assets would be split between his
children. You'd have to hire a probate lawyer. At this point, your
daughter has a better claim on his estate than the unborn child but if
he was cohabitating with the girlfriend, then you'd have to prove the
stuff belonged to him alone.

The other thing is.... this must be awfully hard on the girlfriend. She
is likely to need time to figure out what to do with the things that are
his. That may take months or years. I think that the best way to bring
it up is gently. Tell her you don't want your daughter to lose touch
with her sibling. Call occasionally to see how she's doing. Ask her to
let you know before she gets rid of anything that belonged to Sage's
father. Or compromise on things. Maybe she can make copies of the
tapes. There's legal... and there's decent in some matters. This may be
one of them.

'Kate

I don't think any of his stuff is worth all that. He was not living with the
GF though. But I don't want to push things with the GF, she is really nice,
contacts Sage weekly telling her of updates on the baby and ****. I just
don't want to wait to long as things tend to disappear after time. Part of
me just says let it go though. I am tired of it all. We are also dealing
with some **** from my Grandfather's death. I guess I should just let it go,
S isn't to concerned so I don't know why I am. This is all tiring. Blah.

T