"beachpeach" wrote:

Rosalie B. wrote:

I'm thinking of this from a different perspective.

He may want to go. His little girl is growing up after all and this
is possibly the last time for him to do this. If he does, then let


him go with her, or at least wander along behind if she objects.

Oh my gosh; did I ever give the wrong impression! I want him to go. I
don't want her to go without him or atleast another adult! It's not

I realized that you wanted him to go with her. I was basically asking
you whether he might ALSO want to go with her. That was what I meant
by looking at it from a different perspective. His perspective rather
than yours or hers.

her that I don't trust. It's a car that is driving too fast as she's
crossing the street, older teens who are out with cartons of eggs or
any other icky stuff that happens in life. I want him to go with our
daughter and I want to be fair about it. I don't want to be overly
protective ( I tend to be- I'm a social worker and my sister is a
public defender; that does tend to color our world :-)

I would have him trick or treat with her until 12th grade if it were my
choice :-)

He and I talked about it last night and he said that pretty much stays
in teh background. If she objects, we talked about him staying in the
background X 2. I'm just not comfortable letting go yet.

Thanks for your response...and to the other poster too!