agent99 wrote:
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Chris wrote:
"Nikki" wrote in message
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Chris wrote:

Not me. My comittment is to my wife FIRST and foremost!

As it should be.

That depends.

Ideally, the parents of the child put everyone in the family's
wellbeing at a premium, and recognise that for parents to care well for
kids, they themselves must be well taken care of.

I agree with the above.

And her commitment to you should be above the
children. The order that should follow is:

1. God or some moral belief. For example, if your spouse told you to
kill another human, you should not do so.

2. Your spouse. You put the needs of your spouse before the needs of
your children. Your children will grow and start their own lives, but
in the end, it's just the two of you.

So, lemme get this straight: if you're short on food, the spouse gets
food, but the kids don't?
What if there's a fire, or a capsized boat,
and only one person can be saved? Kid or parent? I hope my spouse
chooses kid - I certainly would.

It all depends on the age of the children and the parents. You will
have to question the ability of the parents on producing any further
children and/or the ability for the entire family to survive with the
loss of the spouse.

Oh, and the scenario where it's just the two of you, and your children
have fled the nest and have their own lives? That's the middle, not the
end. In the end, most likely one of you has outlived the other, and has
medical and physical needs which your children are more likely to take
care of than the state is, so you'd better be sure you fostered a good
relationship with them and helped them to be successful as best you
could when you had the chance, because they are going to either be
caring for you, or choosing the facility that does it in their stead.

Hopefully you raised children of high moral value and have taken the
necessary steps during your life to compensate for this.


3. Your children. Your children's birthdays and/or sporting events or
any other needs surpass those of family and friends.

Ohhhh. Birthday parties and sporting events are the "needs" of which we
speak. I see.

Those were just simplified examples...

Not, you know, the reproductive autonomy of a sexually mature young
woman who lives with her mother and stepfather, and the wellbeing of
her unborn child. My mistake.

She is no longer a child. She is an adult of legal age and has made
life decisions that she needs to take responsibility for.


4. Family and Friends.

So does my wife make the "unilateral pronouncements" on family
decisions, or am I living in a democracy where the votes of my wife
and her child outnumber mine?

It seems that you are the one wanting to make the unilateral
pronouncement.
The person you are not considering is the baby.

That's correct. Depending on which court you choose, legally no baby exists;
and she will be a legal adult before such baby exists.

Also, his step-daughter is not taking the baby into consideration. Why
should he and his wife be burdened by the lack of responsibility of his
step-child?

For someone who believes in a moral code, you got no notion of
compassion, have you?

Apparently, you have no idea on what compassion means. Compassion is
empowering people to make correct decisions in their lives and holding
them responsible for these decisions without depending on other people
for support. You talk like a liberal who rather raise taxes for welfare
programs instead of forcing these people to educate and find jobs and
become independant. You rather see them dependant on the system and
continue their way of life than to stand on their own two feet. You are
the one that lacks compassion.

It's like you're channelling Dr. Laura.

I was never a fan of hers. Did she die?

99

Cool name by the way, it was one of my favorite shows.

Regards...