"Tracy" wrote in message
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"Gini" wrote in message
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"Just Me" wrote in message
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(kellyGirl) said:
"Ask yourself what is more important, the money or a child's
relationship with it's father?
The threat of Jail forces people to do strange things!"

Obviously it's my sons relationship with his father that's more
important. If it was the child support, I would have done something
about that months ago.

And the threat of jail...who even mentioned jail? My ex isn't facing
any
jail time, just money out of his paycheck each week..that's all that
was
going to be changed. He already pays money each week for a child that
he
had with someone else while we were separated. And it's not like the
child support is huge, he doesn't have to pay that much.
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"Obviously" your son's relationship with his father *isn't* more
important!
Who are you trying to fool? You sacrificed
your child's right to a father for money that isn't "huge." Sheesh! And
you
can't figure out why dad took off?
Your son has a right to be upset!
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Gini - I have to disagree with you on this one. They've been divorced for
a
year after a year of separation. This woman has a good relationship with
her ex's father. I have a strong belief he left the state due to the
stress
of the divorce and not having a family to lean on during that time of
need.
This is a man who has an ex who seems to be closer to his father than he
is.

That father-in-law/ex-wife relationship sounded weird. There is probably a
long history behind that alliance. Plus the mother disclosed he had a
child with another woman since their divorce and was paying that woman too.
Paying CS to two women after taxes can be an extreme financial burden. The
concern expressed was strongly biased for the first child's welfare while
the second child's welfare has been ignored.

I would think the order of events has driven him to flee. Just speculating,
if the second mother already had a CS withholding order (she would have been
smart to have one since she already knew about the CS obligation to the
first child), he could have been overwhelmed by getting a second withholding
order for the first mother. If he was juggling his finances to take care of
his CS obligations, he lost control of how to manage the situation when the
second withholding order was served on his employer.

My point is - this stuff doesn't happen in a vacuum. Several other things
are probably going on that haven't been disclosed.