"Tracy" wrote
Yes, and I wouldn't call the mother "decent" - nor
does she care for her kids. Please read what I
wrote. She ignores the older boys and only pays
attention to the daughter (youngest child). The
daughter is showing signs that she is in pain
over this, but isn't talking right now. The mother is
living with a man (and his mother) who does drugs,
isn't working, plus this mother ran around warning
other parents to keep their daughters away from
him. That he was a danger to little girls and
shouldn't be trusted. Now she is living with
him - go figure!

I wouldn't call her "decent", either.

I strongly believe she should not receive custody
of the children for two reasons. 1) her immoral
behavior that destroyed the family (killed the kids
emotionally), and 2) two of the three kids do not
want to live with her. I don't believe in splitting up
children. Therefore, they should remain with dad...
that is where they want to be.

In the case you present, I would agree.

These kids are having more of a difficult time
dealing with the fact that their mother left their
father for a man she claimed was a monster, she
smokes, she drinks heavily, she's out in left field,
has done a total 180 degree turn, etc... I mean
look at it this way - her own family has turned
their backs on this woman for doing what she did,
and she did not care how it impacted those
children - her family - and even her own life.

The kids are better off with their father until their
mother can get her act together. This is a mother
who doesn't want them. She walked away from
them, but now is hinting at custody of just the
daughter. I say 'no way'!

I agree with Frazil, they're better off with the dad, period.

I'll tell you what Dave... I'm dating the man right
now. It is a 45 minutes drive to his home during
good traffic, more than an hour during heavy traffic.
The man has my attention. I don't drive that far for
just anyone, and have stopped dating several
others because he is that good of a man. His
daughter kept hugging me and wanted to just
spend time with an adult female talking. She
wants a mother. Dad and I have "jokingly"
spoke of moving in together. But I'll tell you right
now... for the sake of those kids and that family,
I'd step aside in a heart beat and wish that family
well if dad came to me told me his ex came to her
senses and he will take her back. At one time she
wanted to "come home", but he told her 'no'. He
doesn't trust her. How can he? She has changed
dramatically. Anyways, his house (the one he built)
is up for sale. Once it sales he is either moving
up here or building another house on his mother's
land. He's a hard working laborer, and those kids
need a mother. They don't have a mother right now.
Not really...

I'd say they have a mother, but not a mom. Just a little wordplay I like to
use.