Jen wrote:
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I was extremely shy all my life. It isn't till I was 35ish that I
discovered I had social phobia. It is very debilitating, but can be helped.
Try starting with your GP or school counsellor. She sounds much like I was,
but I would find one friend instead of a teacher.

I hope you can find help for her, it would be extremely hard for her.

Jen

I think the OP's child is a bit young to be diagnosing with social
phobia. Many people are shy as children/teenagers, but become much
less shy as adults.

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Penny Gaines
UK mum to three