When my mom babysits her alone for just 4 hours, I get aggravated because
it
always means she will go through about 4 outfits, because she doesn't
diaper
her right and she blows out/pees out! So annoying.

Yes, but at least she does change her AND at least you HAVE clothes for her.

Also my mom insists you
don't have to change the diaper at every output- this also contributes to
blowouts and I worry aboyut diaper rash, because Rachel doesn't have that
problem with me....I also don't have to put an outfit on her every hour
because of blow outs from improperly done diapers. It makes me want to
scream, so that I don't even want anyone else to watch her! (mym mom just
doesn't cooperate with my suggestions, and also she tends to not clean her
u
p as well, and also- she leaves pooey diaper wipes laying around the house
instead of throwing them away- I have picked several up off the carpet and
changing table, yuck!.....also, she will wipe poo with a cloth diaper or
washcoth, and fold it back up where you can't see the poo, and leave that
folded up and lying on the changing table or the crib.......so, I have
left
Rachel with ehr twice and have come home to a house out of order with
little
things like that and it drives me nuts......nuts!! I am very glad I
finished
errands and don't need to leave Rachel any more. It just drives me nuts
when
someone else does things so the opposite of what i think is reasonable or
best! I do not know why my mom doesn't seem to diaper her right.....and
she
just doesn't listen, and she does WEIRD things. She LOST Rachel's car
seat-
she moved her into the house in it when we returned home form the dr that
she went with me to, and I left to finish an errand and when I got home,
my
mom asked me "Did you put the car seat back in the car? I was looking for
her pacifier and I know it's in the car seat, and the car seat is not
here.
" !!?? I was getting upset because I went all through the hosue 3 times
before I foudn where SHE had stashed the car seat, all the while she was
insisting I MUST have put it in the car. sigh..........and she told me
that
since she couldn't find the pacifier, she used a nipple off of a bottle.
No,
no no! That was so wrong....IMO. Also- I have to really watch her- I
always
have to check Rachel in the car seat myself when we go out anyhwree
together
when mom is "helping", because she has been shown at leat 6 times how to
buckle Rachel into the car seat, and insists on doing it herself...I asked
her if Rachel was in properly etc, and she said "Yes. Let's go"..I said
"Are
you sure?" "Yes, she is! "...and then I check, and she didn't even have it
buckled!!!! And then said it wouldn't matter. My gosh, first of all
safety,
not to mention the massive (and deserved!) traffic ticket if someone
didn't
have a child properly restrained. It doesn't matter????? My mom really has
been worrying me. She's only watched her a couple times but each time,
there
is a list f stuff wrong. And she also does unexplainable things.....she
reversed the way I had the crib set up, moved the mobile to the opposite
side and re-screwed it on, when I just stepped out for an hour, and
rearranged some other nursery things. That blew my mind, because I wasn't
out long, and a lot was moved...and when Rachel has all those
grandma-diaper
blowouts and her clothes gets changed, my mom always puts her in things
other than onsies, in the nicer clothes that I really don't generally use
on
an average day just to lie around the house.

I don't know...............this all makes me feel so anal and nitpicky but
I
now HATE trying to leave Rachel with my mom, and don't want to do it
anymore, because I can't relax and enjoy a couple hours out, knowing that
my
mom does stuff like this. But because of the car seat thing I know I will
NEVER ever feel ok EVER, about the grandparents keeping her and ever even
so
much as taking her down the street to the store....it annoys me to not be
able to be trustful of Rachel with grandma. I am still boggling that she
used a nipple as a pacifier!! I would say she should ahve just used her
finger but I have watched her do several poo diaper changes where she
doesn't wash her hands afterward. sigh.........the other grandma is going
to
be just as annoying I fear, in other ways, because DH told me that she has
been mentioning to his dad that she is concerned and wonders if we should
be
allowing the pediatrician to do Rachel's shots the way they do them now.
Um...........?! eh, what?? What does she think, that its not safe to
vaccinate her ? The grandmas are just boggling my mind. However they used
to do vaccines, we see EXCELLENT pediatricians, and I leave her shots to
them. sheesh....

etc.

You are fortunate to have a healthy wonderful daughter and a mother who is
in your life and wanting to be a grandmother.

While you are together with your mother, just remember that you are
ultimately responsible for Rachel's safety. If you don't trust your mom,
don't let her watch the baby. End of story.

As far as your inlaws, sounds nice that they are concerned about Rachel.
Still, don't leave them alone with her if you fear for her safety.

My mother and I have disagreements about a few things, but ultimately I am
the mommy and she knows it. A few things we disagreed upon:

~What clothing to put on Morgan. She kept her too warm! She also kept
wrapping her up in blankets.

~Bathing. I still can't bathe her alone. Mom does it with me. LOL! Some
battles CAN'T be won!

There are other areas...I'm too tired to write now.

Of course, she can't move stuff around like yours b/c she does have a
shattered wrist. LOL!

Don't sweat the small stuff. You Da Momma!

~Carol Ann
Mom to Morgan born 3.24.04
http://tinyurl.com/28zno ---Pictures!