Akuvikate wrote:

1. Continue to co-sleep by switching her to the middle and getting her
used to sleeping with DH. Sometime before June spend a few nights
sleeping on the couch and letting him deal with night wakings. (I've
seen the stats on overlying and am not concerned about her being at
any risk from that.)
2. Get her used to sleeping in a crib and have DH find a way to get
her down to sleep in the evenings (and back to sleep at night if
necessary).

At around 11 months we were able to move Emma when she fell
asleep into her crib. She'd sleep for 3 hours or so then come
back into bed with us. At 18 months I wasn't getting any sleep
because she moved *all the time*. In fact, I think she'd wake
herself up by hitting the sides of the crib. At that point, we got
her a big girl bed and moved her to that. She rarely came
to our bed after that, she adores her big girl bed.

I'm torn about what to do. On the one hand I'll *really* need my
sleep on the nights I'm home, and I know I'll sleep better if it's
just me and DH in the bed. On the other hand I know one resident who
co-sleeps with her 1-year-old just for the cuddle time since she's
gone so much.

This is how I felt. I WOH, and am gone all day M-F. I really needed
the cuddle time, and I think it really kept our nursing relationship going

after I stopped pumping (12 months), but she did nurse several times
a night (and actually had at least 1 night waking to nurse until about 2
years old when my husband started dealing with night wakings. She
weaned shortly after that).

With respect to getting baby used to you not being there. I wouldn't.
Your husband will figure out how to get her to sleep, how to deal
with her wakings in his own way, and it will likely be easier if you
aren't in the house.

So I don't have any real advice, just what happened with us.

Good luck,
Mary