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Old December 21st 05, 11:13 PM posted to misc.kids.breastfeeding
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"Amy" wrote in message
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...but I should "suck it up" and continue to take the pill, or get an
IUD, or get sterilized myself, or ....?


In a word, yes.

No, I'm sorry, we both have
sex, we both have responsiblities, and when the time comes to make the
decision that we're done reproducing, the responsiblity is going to be
his, because up until then the responsiblity is mine. That's just
biology. It's not fair, and I don't have to like it, and neither does
he.

Sorry, but biology says that his body is not your body. The law says you
don't own his body.

He may come around to having a vasectomy. A lot of men do when the consider
the alternatives. But if he doesn't, you're choices would seem to be the
ones you listed above or having as many babies as nature gives you. (Being
presented with the latter option might be sufficient motivation for him to
rethink his decision).

Look, I'm not objecting to your reasoning here. What I'm objecting to is
your TONE. Now, I doubt that you'll be nearly so acerbic and dogmatic when
you discuss this with your husband as you have been here; I'm saying that if
you ARE, you're probably going to have problem. I'm saying that if you think
you can just lay down the law and he'll tuck his tail between his legs and
do it because you say he has to without some consequences, you're either
wrong or you have an unusually docile spouse (not just for man, mind you,
but for a spouse of any gender).
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Be well, Barbara