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Hi I've been separated for two years, I have 2 children of 14 and 12
in shared custody. I learned from my daughter. who was 12 at the time,
that her mother told her she was going to leave me several days before
she told me!
What kind of person could do something like that?

One with no guts to deal directly with the change they are creating. Women
initiate divorces 85+% of the time. She was just looking to your daughter
to break the news to you first because she couldn't do it.

This plays out in different ways. In my case my ex wanted me to tell our
children "we" were getting a divorce even though she is the one who was
breaking up the marriage.

Quite frankly I view these situations as womenfirsters demanding what they
want for themselves without the spine to stand up for what they want and
without regard for how children might be implicated in their schemes to end
marriages.