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On May 12, 12:13 am, "Gini" wrote:
"Bob Whiteside" wrote





"Gini"wrote

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Hi I've been separated for two years, I have 2 children of 14 and 12
in shared custody. I learned from my daughter. who was 12 at the
time,
that her mother told her she was going to leave me several days
before
she told me!
What kind of person could do something like that?
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The kind of person you'd choose to marry and have children with?

How can a husband predict his wife will become a person from a
different
planet 10-15 years after their marriage? How are men supposed to know
before marriage their brides will feel unfulfilled emotionally, in need
of
a
change, want to find themselves, believe they not having their needs
met,
or
feeling like they are growing apart 10-15 years later?

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Not sure. But, I am disturbed by the number of folks who show up here
obsessing about the
"abusive ex," "the glass-throwing drug addicted slut" etc whom they chose
to
marry and procreate with.
Look how Moon (who has recently disappeared, by the way) has
presented her ex as an abuser, child neglector, deadbeat, etc when he's
the
one she chose to father her
children! And the guys do it all the time with their ex's. Well, after
all
these years, I'm fed up with it. People need to
make better choices and live with the consequences of their
choices...And,
this other person is the father/mother of
their children. It isn't the kids' fault the parent made a lousy choice
of
procreating partner for their child(ren) and it
serves no useful purpose coming in here and trashing the other parent,
especially as we were reminded of lately--these kids
grow up and use usenet. They're going to have access to all this crap
someday. We're not operating in a vacuum here. As for me,
my ex wasn't/isn't perfect just as I am not perfect. But, I have never
regreted having his children (1 adopted and 1 bio) and no matter what
happened between he and I, he loved/loves those
boys as much as I and I will always respect him for that. He's not a
creep.
If he were, I wouldn't have married him let alone had children
with him. My god, chosing a parent for one's children is the most
important
choice we make in life and we damn well better have it right
or make the best of it when we don't.- Hide quoted text -

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Just to clarify something from my initial post: My ex also asked my
daughter not to tell me anything at the time. She (my daughter) told
me that last week.I don't know how it came to the conversation since I
avoid the subject as much as possible.
I also don't see how could I expect the mother of my children to act
the way she did.
I need to exchange with people who could understand my situation and
even give me some advice.
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Advice about what--exactly?