"Newman Hunt" wrote in message
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On Fri, 11 Jul 2003 19:09:52 -0500, tötö©
wrote:

On Fri, 11 Jul 2003 19:13:45 -0400, Newman Hunt
wrote:

The attitude begins before school age.

Are you suggesting that adolecesents who never exhibited any emotional
dysfunctions before school age must have been abused if they are
bullied in school and suddenly go on a killing spree?

I would suggest that often the bullying in school is only a proximate
cause and not the full story.

Have you ever endured a prolonged period of time where you were
bullied? If not, how can you suggest such a thing?

I was-for years. As a student with physical and speech-language delays, I
was very "amusing" to get a reaction from.

However, home was my refuge, where I knew I was safe. I didn't get the same
emotional and physical abuse there that I did at school. As a result, I
could cling to that and not internalize the abuse as being part of me which
I deserved.


Similarly, I've known abused children for whom school was their refuge,
where they were accepted. And in general, they are less likely to
internalize the abuse and believe it is caused by them.

The saddest children are those who are pariahs both at home and at school,
because they often feel they have no one to blame but themselves, and that
therefore it has to be their fault. And where the culture used to be such
that such children either endured it (and grew up to end up in abusive
relationships or to be abusive themselves, or both), ended up using drugs,
or ended up committing suicide, now violence is increasingly becoming the
answer. Not only school shootings, but many kids who get involved in gangs
do so because they need an accepting place where they feel safe-and the gang
provides that.