On May 14, 3:19 pm, Werebat wrote:
dmr wrote:
Now, as fathers we have been victims of the stereotype that assume
that mothers can take care better of the children. How many times
Judges have given full custody to the mother based on prejudices!
We won't be helping our cause though, if the primary goal for
requesting shared custody is to reduce child support payments.

But if CS is all about supporting the children, and the man is
increasing time the children are in his care, he isn't saving any money
at all, is he? The extra time with his kids means more money out of his
pocket, which should in theory be equal to the money he is saving on CS,
right?

Unless you admit that CS goes beyond just the expenses of caring for the
children, in which case you'd also have to admit that the mother may
have ulterior financial motives in wanting to keep the kids full-time.
I'm not sure anyone promoting the court-ordered exchange of wealth from
men to women wants to admit to that.

- Ron ^*^

He would be expending as much money if instead of having his
girlfriend taking care of the children, he had to bring them to a
daycare.
As it is now, he's only paying for some extra groceries.
I really don't know what are or would be the mother's motivations to
have full custody. I don't know her and maybe she's fine with the
shared custody arrangement. All I say is that I don't like the idea of
someone (man or woman) requesting shared custody to save money.
I have my children in shared custody and I do so because I cannot see
myself without the children for too long. I refused two promotions
because the schedules wouldn't allow me to spend enough time with the
kids. It has nothing to do with the money.