ted ) writes:
| How do you deal with it if among the siblings one is naughty and the
| other is nice? Just curious.

Stop thinking of them as "the naughty one" and "the nice one" or the
good one/the bad one - and for that matter the brain/the jock, the
neatnik/the slob, the artist/the scientist, the hard worker/the
goof-off, or any other combination where the two are defined by their
opposition to one another. It's limiting and harmful to both of them
and to you.

Start thinking of them as individuals, each of which has their strong
points and their weak points. Every single kid has qualities their
parents are proud of and qualities that drive their parents nuts -
every single one. Encourage the good qualities, do your best to
squelch the bad ones - but not by setting them up against one another.

- Cindy Kandolf, mamma to Kenneth (10) and Robert (4)
****** Bærum, Norway
Bilingual Families Web Page:
http://www.nethelp.no/cindy/biling-fam.html