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Old March 3rd 09, 01:15 AM posted to misc.kids
Jeff
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Default Party invitations

I would definitely bring it up. If your daughter is not doing well
socially, you need to learn what you can do to help her. And if she is
not getting invitations because she has a similar name to her friend,
her friends' parents would probably appreciate learning their is an
oversight, so they can correct it. So I would definitely ask the teacher
about it, too.

If you daughter's friend were not getting the invitations, would you
want to correct it? And, if you were not inviting all your daughter's
friends because of a silly mistake, would you appreciate it if her
teacher corrected the mistake?

Jeff

Welches wrote:
#2 is pretty sociable, seems to have lots of friends and greets people with
great enthusiasm. However today she received her first party invite since
before Christmas, and I heard a couple of parents of other girls commenting
that they'd had a lot recently. I was a bit surprised as I'd got the
impression that she was popular and certainly at least 2 of the people the
person cited I would have put as expecting an invite from.
Now having thought about it, I'm wondering if she's being left out for a
silly reason. Her best friend has a very similar sounding (but not
identical) name, and I've noticed that some of the children call them both
by best friend's name. It's not bothered me, and it doesn't bother #2, she
answers fine to it, and seems to know when they want her rather than best
friend.
Certainly in one child's case they told #2 that she was invited but not best
friend (I was there) but best friend got the invite not #2 when it came out.

Parents' evening is coming up, and my inclination is to check that #2 is
socialising fine, and leave it at that, but I'm wondering whether to ask the
teacher to correct the children that are using best friend's name.

It doesn't seem to be bothering #2 much that she's not getting the invites,
but she has commented that "everyone else has got invites". Certainly at
that age most of #1's form invited all the girls, (although there were fewer
girls so it might not be the case with #2) and it might be that parents are
saying "there's not two children called best friend" so #2 could be just
not getting the invites when "all" the other girls are when she's meant to.

Debbie