Ericka Kammerer wrote:

This will likely make her mad, but at least it preserves
a way out of the situation whenever she chooses to stop
the behavior and it lowers your frustration level because
you have a plan and you're working fiercely not to take
her criticisms personally.

Best wishes,
Ericka

Yep, it's hard not to react. I think that's MY issue. Need to work on
that. Thanks!