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Old December 5th 07, 12:35 AM posted to misc.kids
Beliavsky
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Default Am I hurting my child by putting her in daycare at 22 months?

On Dec 4, 6:24 pm, Barbara wrote:

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Sadly, we have no idea of the effect of most actions that we take with
our kids. Give your kid candy? Obesity epidemic. Don't let your kid
have candy? I was just talking to someone who described hoarding and
hiding food, resulting in lifetime food issues, because she wasn't
allowed candy as a kid. We all just have to try to do the best that
we can given our own circumstances.

Penelope, with your mom leaving, you're definitely going to need some
help with the kids. A good daycare program, if one is available, can
be an excellent option for you. Given that you have another one at
home, though, there are other options, such as a full time in home
sitter wtih the older child attending a shorter program out of the
home a couple of times a week. Whatever you decide, do your research
and remember to go with your gut -- if it seems like there's a
problem, act immediately. While we can argue the incremental
differences, the simple fact is that most kids who are in a loving
environment -- at home with a parent, with a sitter or in a care
situation -- thrive. OTOH, kids who are not in a loving and
supportive place -- with parents (& I could tell you stories that
would make your hair curl about parents!) or with others tend not to
thrive to the same degree.


Yes, and Stephanie explained very well how daycare often does *not*
provide a loving and supportive place for children. Mothers know and
love their children more than anyone else, and their "turnover" is
pretty low, thank goodness.

I did not tell the OP what to do, but I did mention an article
summarizing some research on daycare, which is one thing she asked
for.