Hi -

We told our son that he was going to be teaching the baby a lot of
things. Once the baby arrived our son "taught" his brother how to
smile, how to use his fingers, how to play, how to laugh ... it worked a
treat!

We also spent time actively watching the two play together (which can be
very amusing when the baby is just days old and your older one is still
figuring out what to do with it). We'd make lots of big brotherly
comments.

We still had rivalry issues, which peaked between six months (when the
baby became mobile) and 12 months (when the baby learned to walk, so
they could run around together).

I've heard that big sisters are very different from big brothers, but
these things worked for us. In addition, of course, to the other advice
already posted about reading books in advance, etc.

--Beth Kevles

http://web.mit.edu/kevles/www/nomilk.html -- a page for the milk-allergic
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