Hi Joelle

Hang in there, because YOU have the right idea - so many parents who "have a
talk" with their kids (or their partner) in reality just have a "this is why I
am right and you are wrong" session that only serves to let their child know
that the parent is really only interested in justifying their own view.

As you so rightly point out, while the child may "agree" with the parent during
one of these sessions, it is generally a 'forced' agreement where disagreeing
is labled as stupid or imature or 'not loving' the parent etc and agreement
with the parent is seen as 'coming to ones senses' or such.

What these sessions actually accomplish is to teach the child to shut up and
keep their ideas to themselves.

David



Joelle wrote:

When I gave my explinations, she appeared to understand
them & see that her thinking was wrong & why.

Okay. Well then if your goal was for her to let you know that she knows how
wrong she is, you were successful. Congratulations.

Joelle
The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St
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Joelle