Melody wrote:

Well, I had my ultrasound today and we saw the heartbeat. It was 141 bpm and
everything looked fine. I'm quite relieved and very apprieciatve of all the
support I've gotten from you ladies. It looks like the chance of m/c has
become much, much smaller and the blighted ovum theory has been disproved.

But- it seems like all I do is cry anymore. I feel miserable all the time.
It's to the point where it's seriously affecting my relationship with my SO.
He soooo doesn't understand (I don't think I would either if the situation
was reversed). Anyone else depressed like this so early? What's going on?
What can I do to help it (besides medication, I'm not taking medication)? I
want to be happy but I feel so completely unhappy for no apparent reason.
I'm taking everything personally and seem to be upset ALL the time. Even the
wonderful news at the ultrasound today didn't feel wonderful. What's going
on with me? Is it hormones? When will they balance out? Ugh... help... I
can't handle this!

Thanks again...

Melody

{{{{{{{{{{{Melody}}}}}}}}}}},

Have you discussed this with your OB? You need to do that, especially if your
DH isn't able to offer the emotional support you need right now. You're going
through huge physical changes, and facing huge changes in your post-partum
life. It's not so unusual to suffer from depression during pregnancy... in
fact it's actually more common than post-partum depression. I know you are
opposed to medication, but there are some anti-depressants that have been shown
to be safe during pregnancy (no increased risk of birth defects, or learning
problems). Even if you decide that you still don't want to take medications for
depression, a few things you can try (and you may have to force yourself at
first) a

1. get out and get some sunlight!
2. exercise: even just short walks or a swim in the pool may help (and you can
get that sunshine at the same time).
3. be pro-active in seeking emotional support... call your family, friends, look
up old college buddies, or ask your doctor to refer you to a support group...
talk to people about how you are feeling, see a counselor. You shouldn't expect
to just be able to shrug depression off without help.
4. Make sure to take extra special care of yourself... sleep when you need to
(let DH do the dishes, and that vacuuming can wait!!), eat well, stay hydrated.

Marion
EDD 10-16-204