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Old July 17th 03, 06:02 PM
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Default help me keep my son from perpetuating the cycle of abuse (very long)

Tiffany wrote:

Continue trying like hell to get help for him. Foster care may not be
the best choice long run but at this point, it might be best
temporarily.


That is my hope.

You might want to tape some conversations where your son
does become abusive as proof.


Very good idea.

With your disorder and now him already
saying you tried to kill him, they are going to side with him.


That about sums it up.

If
things are getting so bad and you think it might be hard to not abuse
him, throw him out of the house. Lock the doors, hide the car, get a
friend to hang out with you, preferably a large male friend.


I have no such friend it turns out. and my dog is a wimpy little cocker
spaniel, lol.

I am
sure you want to help him but I doubt you can. You are his mom and
somewhere along the line he has lost total respect for you.


Which is very sad but also about sums it up.

Always
let him know you love him but you can't help him. This most be the
hardest thing for a mother. Have you tried standing up to him, not
backing down?


Yeah, then he got revenge the next day by destroying the thing most precious
to me.

His freaking out about soda? He would have been wearing
that soda plus some.


And if you were a mental patient you would be in the psych unit for being
violent to a minor. Especially if you did it in public, like right there at
the gas station. Even though the little **** deserved it. Even though the
police routinely behave much more violently, to mental patients.

Stand strong, you ARE the boss, not him. No
matter how many wrongs you think you have done to him there are
probably million rights. If you show weakness at this point, his
abuse will become much worse. You need to get him away from you.


I know that I need to get him away from me. He is routinely triggering my
PTSD. Much of what he is doing is just being a teenager but he has gone way
past that point now. I see the child services lady today to beg her to put
him in foster care.

thank you.