"Strutter" wrote in message
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"Bev" wrote in message
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On Apr 23, 11:08?pm, "Strutter" wrote:
"'Kate" wrote in message
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On Mon, 23 Apr 2007 18:36:31 -0500, Strutter wrote for all to see:
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I also pay $8K/year in child support and another $6K/year in
traveling expenses to be with my daughter. My 39 year old ex wife
introducing her 25 year old boyfriends to my daughter just rubs me the
wrong
way a little. Especially since those relationships don't seem to be
lasting
too long.
Ya know......I thought you were thinking of your daughter when you
posted about your ex's introducing her b/f's to the child. Now I see
why your shorts are really in a knot. 8K a year in CS and 6K a year in
traveling expenses does not make up for the limited amount of time you
are spending with your child.Move closer, you can spend more time with
your daughter ,save your 6K in traveling expenses,mind your own
business about who your Ex is dating and you might feel better.
Honestly, I'm glad that I am able to provide for my daughter, and I didn't
say anything to the contrary. My only point in bringing up the money was
to illustrate that I am being responsible and staying active in my
daughter's life even though I live 1000 miles away. It's difficult.
I wonder where I put that clipped ad from the paper that said raising
children was easy... Hafta look into that...
I am concerned about strange men floating in and out of my daughter's
life. I don't care who my ex dates or how many people she dates,
Apparently you do. You're not too crazy about your ex, nearing her 50's,
IIRC, dating these younger guys who dump her. (quoted: "My ex seems to be
on a trend of dating young guys that dump her after they get what they want
from her.")
but I have read that young children tend to love easily and it can be
damaging to the child's trust and ability to form relationships later in
life. I don't want that for my daughter, and she already talks about some
of the guys. How do you explain when Johnny-Come-Lately doesn't come
around anymore?
Maybe you should just sit your daughter down and explain to her that Mommy's
a big, mean jerk and likes to date people that are old enough to be her
father, yet are half her Mommy's age. Explain to her that Mommy just wants
some of these guys for grown up reasons, but her 'boyfriends' only want to
get what they want and move on.
Like I said, I don't care who my ex dates.
Like you did say, apparently you do care whom your ex dates.
I have a problem with the fact that there have been so many lately, and
they are all around my daughter. I don't think it's right,
and I don't see how my mention of child support and traveling expenses
changes that fact and turns me into the bad guy.
You're the one that brought it up. Glorifying child support payments around
here won't get you any hero biscuits, awards or applause.
My ex seems to be on a trend of dating young guys that dump her after they
get what they want from her.
B-b-but... I thought you said you didn't care who dates who! You're talking
circles. How do you know she gets dumped after putting out? Or do these
guys want her money... And take it and leave... Or her shoes. Take them and
run. Her time - there's never enough time as it is, those greedy guys!!!
Would you expose your child to that over and over?
I never have and I never will, so this question was an easy one.
I just want her to give a relationship time before my daughter is
introduced into the picture.
If your ex is leading the reckless lifestyle with your daughter, maybe she'd
be willing to let the kid live with you and you can provide a stable home
without people in and out, in and out and your ex can go off living her life
however she wants.
Not that it's any of your business, but I am working toward living close
to my daughter. Finding the right job doesn't happen overnight most of
the time. I can't help that they live in an econimically depressed area.
And I bet they live in an economically depressed area that stretches about
1000 miles every direction from them, right?